I'm freaking out! Im pregnant again by my DS dad. It's complicated between us, we were giving it ago again but I don't t think we can be together. My family hate him, he's been abusive to me before. Lied and cheated. I tried again for D'S. Stupidly we had sex and i forgot to take my pill. I thought I'd be ok. Now I'm pregnant and don't want the baby. I struggled so much with my D'S and my mental health isn't great. I know I wouldn't cope. But should I tell my D'S dad I'm Pregnant? I think he would make me keep it. If I didn't tell him and just had an abortion it might be easier.
Sorry this is a bit rambled I've only just found out I'm pregnant
Sorry you are having a terrible day. I can't tell you what to do. Only you can decide. I think you already have. The problem is both answers are unpalatable. I just think you need to do what will be the best for you and Ds in the long term.
Thanks, I really don't think I'd be able to cope with another baby atm. My D'S is only 15 months. Is just weather I tell exP. If I tell him and do it then I think he would make my life he'll but there's a bit of me what would feel guilty not telling him and he should know. I'm just torn
I can imagine this being a very difficult situation for you. I know some will disagree but if I were in your shoes I’d go ahead with termination and not tell him. What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him. This is your life it will impact mostly, and your DS. If you don’t feel in the position to be able to offer new baby the love, care, happiness and material things it will need then I wouldn’t do it. Think of your mental health also. Good luck with whichever route you pick
I have a newborn. The idea of a toddler and newborn at the SAME TIME seems like a nightmare. If you feel like you will struggle to cope, listen to those feelings. Your son’s father has no say over your decision. Yes it’s his child but it’s your body and you will be the primary carer of those children. You don’t need to tell him. You just need to do what is right for you.
You do what is right for YOU OP. You don't have to tell your abusive ex 'partner' if you don't want to and even if you did, he can't make you continue with the pregnancy. I hope you've got some objective support. . When you've dealt with this situation and the sad news about your grandad, have a look at the Freedom Programme x