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Friend's husband and prostitutes

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freshlemons Mon 15-May-17 13:15:57

I have recently found out that a good friend's husband regularly sleeps with prostitutes when abroad for business trips. About 3 or 4 times a year. They have 2 teenage children and are in a "happy marriage" as far as everyone is concerned. He just happened to let slip to my partner this weekend that he does this when away. sad

I am not going to tell her, it's none of my business. I can't stop thinking about it though..... what would you do if you know this sort of thing? I am right to keep my mouth shut, to them both aren't I?

Dodie66 Mon 15-May-17 13:32:11

Hope he is using protection. What about STDs?
I would be concerned for my friend.
I don't know what I would do about it though.
What did your partner say?

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Mon 15-May-17 13:33:03

I hope she never finds out that you and your dh knew. . .

freshlemons Mon 15-May-17 13:37:03

Justmade, so do I. I wish I didn't. sad

Sunnyshores Mon 15-May-17 13:53:28

If she was a good friend, then Im afraid I would have to tell her.

BillyButtfuck Mon 15-May-17 13:53:59

If she was a good friend I would be planning how I was going to tell her.

Did he say to your DP that she doesn't know? Or not to say?
You never know, they might have some sort of agreement

Spam88 Mon 15-May-17 13:55:47

Awful conversation to have, but I'd have to tell my friend.

Dozer Mon 15-May-17 13:57:24

She is a close friend: I would tell her.

FatOldBag Mon 15-May-17 13:59:01

How did you find out? I'd tell her - why keep his secret for him?

BillyButtfuck Mon 15-May-17 14:02:13

FatOldBag the DH who is shagging around told OPs DP (who presumably told OP)

CalmItKermitt Mon 15-May-17 14:03:35

If she's a friend as opposed to an acquaintance you'll tell her!

Jayfee Mon 15-May-17 14:05:09

I think I'd rehearse some sort of an " don't blokes exaggerate line" case he is. But if I was emotionally close enough, I would want to tell her. perhaps imagining if it was your hsband possibly using prostitues might help to decide. she might already know or suspect

Pinkjellybeans Mon 15-May-17 14:05:33

I would tell my friend! Sorry but how can you not? She should know about this absolutely.

DearMrDilkington Mon 15-May-17 15:15:11

Please tell her. Don't let her waste any more years with this slimebag.

MamaAli Mon 15-May-17 17:50:43

If it was me I would want to know. Sorry, I would have to tell her what her husband said.

RedStripeIassie Tue 16-May-17 09:03:10

I would tell her. She needs to know. I'd want to know.

Thinkingofausername1 Wed 17-May-17 14:25:26

I'd want to know. He is putting her sexual health at risk

Leavesandburies Wed 17-May-17 14:27:10

I would be telling any friend the truth in this situation. Because the friend as a person is worth more than even the friendship.

Tootsiepops Wed 17-May-17 14:30:25

Secrets like that dont just slip out.

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