Hello, Im new to this talking online thing but really need advice, so here goes! Should I change my name on second marriage or not? 2 of my sons don't want me to as they think I will be more linked to my future step children than to them. (and to new hubby's ex!) I kept my maiden name when I married in 1998. I have three sons (17,14,10) I split from my first husband in terrible circumstances and he has since died. So my children and I have different surnames. I am getting married to my true love in July and had said I would take my new husband's surname as he really wants me to. He is very un-possesive but I felt it was a symbol of moving on with my life and being in his family which is v loving & strong. I didn't the first time for many reasons, one of which was that I always felt I belonged to my birth family and could not accept being 'owned' by another family (who were not the nicest family!) My parents have died now and so that reason is gone. Is there an option to partially change and how would you split it to keep all my men happy? Im totally divided now with what I want. Sorry its long!