My daughter is in year 1 and a spring birthday so not one of the very youngest.
She's always been dreadful with going to the toilet and has wet herself and soiled herself quite regularly since an early age. I think I might have gone wrong with potty training somehow. She has a brother who is 2 years older, and he's always been absolutely fine.
Nearly every day she comes home with different pants to the ones she went in with and I know it's ridiculous but I find it so embarrassing.
I've tried all the usual things you might think of - all clear at the doctors, limiting drinks, praise, rewards, punishments (I've even smacked her a few times in sheer frustration which is awful I know) talked to her to see if there's anything about the school toilets but I don't think it's that as she was wetting herself at nursery and other places too. To be honest I think it is laziness.
She doesn't seem remotely bothered about anything and I do wonder if part of it is for attention?