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Afternoon with the MIL

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blitzgirl Thu 01-Sep-16 09:55:17

Today I have to endure an afternoon with the MIL and DP's 2 nieces. My dd loves seeing her cousins and I'd never deprive her of that but my god do I HATE having to spend time with them! Sound awful don't I?! Bit of back ground:

DPs family talk to me like I'm a child - I'm 32. I feel incredibly condescended by his DM, brother & SIL. There were some family issues about 6 years ago - which I could write a whole other thread about! - and due to this all conversations were hushed in other rooms, mail secretly slipped to DP and our relationship hushed up for the sake of his ExW. Ever since then I feel like all they are interested in is DD and couldn't care less if I was there or not. If I try and start a conversation with them, they change the subject back to them and some times BIL doesn't even say hello to me when I enter the room! I've spoken to DP and he says I'm being stupid and picking on his family for no reason but I feel like I have a right to be heard!

My question is, WWYD faced with being made to feel like this and more importantly any survival tips for me this afternoon because I am literally sick to the back teeth with it!

Hissy Fri 02-Sep-16 18:55:43

Why do you agree to it? The nieces could come alone. Or you could arrange to meet out somewhere.

How did it go in the end?

blitzgirl Fri 02-Sep-16 19:09:45

I guess I'm a soft touch. In the end I left dd with mil and went to get some shopping by the time I got back she had suggested meeting at a cafe so in the end I only had to do half hour or so and I let her talk about herself. The thing is I feel guilty if I say no and wretched if I say yes!

RandomMess Fri 02-Sep-16 19:13:27

Perhaps this was an issue for the ExW?

Sounds like you will always be an outsider?

Hissy Sat 03-Sep-16 15:21:56

Good for you! Now you know how to manage this

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