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PingPongBat Thu 26-Jun-14 17:51:45

DD (13) has been learning a new instrument for a few weeks. She has been asked to do a short solo at a school concert smile

On the same day, the funeral of a great friend of 20+ years is taking place sad

If I go to the funeral (not local), I may miss the concert (at school locally) because of the timings.

DD is aware of the timing clash, is pleased to be asked to do the solo, but is a bit sad at the prospect of me missing it.


AllMimsyWereTheBorogoves Thu 26-Jun-14 17:55:17

Funeral. There will probably be other opportunities to hear your daughter play. You need to talk to her about it, obviously, so she understands why it's important to go to a funeral.

I'm sorry for your loss. thanks

MrsBungle Thu 26-Jun-14 17:56:30

Definitely the funeral. I'm sure there will be other performances.

FatalCabbage Thu 26-Jun-14 17:56:44

Funeral, but do your best to get back in time.

Minnieisthedevilmouse Thu 26-Jun-14 17:57:54

Can you hold a special pre-concert at home? And ask someone to video it (if able)? Maybe go out for pizza or have them in after and do popcorn /films or something you don't often do?

flamingtoaster Thu 26-Jun-14 17:57:59

Funeral. Are parents allowed to film at your school concerts? If so you could ask a friend to film her performance.

scaevola Thu 26-Jun-14 18:02:29


I am sure you will find a way to deal with your DD's disappointment, and I hope there will be more recitals in future when you can watch. Is her father around to go? Or GPs, favourite aunt/uncle?

PingPongBat Thu 26-Jun-14 18:08:36

It's a mutual friend of DH & me, so he would go too. Filming is a good idea, thanks, I'll ask about that. Thanks for thethanks

shakinstevenslovechild Thu 26-Jun-14 18:10:03

I think I would go to the concert and find my own way to say goodbye to my friend, or try to get to the wake after the performance if I could.

paulapantsdown Thu 26-Jun-14 18:11:01

funeral - there will be other concerts

odyssey2001 Sun 29-Jun-14 09:12:53

Funeral and try to get someone special to go instead (an aunt, uncle, best friend's parent etc). Filming also a great idea then watch it together straight after.

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