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Should I confront DP that I've found this?

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ThePartyArtist Fri 07-Mar-14 13:32:42

Today I had to move DP's bedside drawers and underneath it (hidden rather well) was a porn magazine and some train tickets. The first thing I noticed was the magazine and I was a bit unsure of what to make of it. I had a look though and decided although I am not particularly keen on DP having it, it was fairly harmless stuff and I was more surprised than anything, but not overly bothered. I did however think I'd probably let him know I had found it, in a fairly light-hearted way and just have a chat about it (but not be confrontational) as it's the secrecy rather than the item that concerns me.

Then I noticed there are also train tickets for a weekend away to a UK city, for two people. It may be a coincidence but it's a city we like visiting and is our nearest mini break type destination. So I thought perhaps he's booked us a surprise and that I should hide both the tickets and the magazine and pretend I never saw them. However he's told me he's working that Sunday. I texted him to double check and he confirmed this. He'll know from experience that I am likely to arrange to see friends if he's working on a day I'm off - which makes me think he's not planning a weekend away or he'd have told me to keep it free. (Could it be he's double booked himself or thought he'd lost the tickets, so arranged to work instead? Seems a long shot but I can't imagine why he'd book time away if he was working).

So I am rather bemused! I think my options are;

a) replace both items and never mention them.
b) tell him I've found them and ask what the tickets are for.
c) arrange the tickets so it looks like they've slipped out while I was moving the furniture, but I haven't noticed them.

FuckingFuck Tue 01-Apr-14 08:33:32

Just read whole thread. Congratulations!!! What a lovely ending!

BranchingOut Tue 01-Apr-14 08:19:03

Oh my word, that is the best ending ever to an 'I've found something suspicious...' thread!

moonblues Mon 31-Mar-14 17:18:29


BillyBanter Mon 31-Mar-14 17:16:40


Congratulations. smile

Trumpton Mon 31-Mar-14 17:03:57

Ah sweet ! I love a happy story !

ThePartyArtist Mon 31-Mar-14 16:47:57

Just to report I have had the weekend away which was beyond wonderful... and have returned with a beautiful engagement ring on my finger!

MightBe Mon 24-Mar-14 05:44:57


OnlyLovers Sat 08-Mar-14 14:18:27

Wahey! Have a marvellous weekend.

CMP69 Sat 08-Mar-14 11:52:50

Just read the full thread. Enjoy your weekend grin

CMP69 Sat 08-Mar-14 11:47:59

He probably thinks it a good hiding place, assuming the mag has been there for a while. I would leave them both and wait for the weekend away surprise (hopefully)

vikkik888 Sat 08-Mar-14 11:41:35

I knew it smile

ThePartyArtist Sat 08-Mar-14 10:56:28

I know , crazy! And he knows I'm the type to make a packing list!

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici Sat 08-Mar-14 10:16:37

He thought that you could pack and go in 15 minutes?
lovely thought but oh my god. 15 minutes? shower, get dressed and pack?
Or was he planning on packing for you?

WipsGlitter Sat 08-Mar-14 10:13:46

Leave the Bastard.

kelper Sat 08-Mar-14 10:11:26

aww, thats lovely! I'm amazed he thought 15 minutes was enough time to get up and pack though!

ThePartyArtist Sat 08-Mar-14 10:09:12

I know it's utterly ridiculous! What's LTB by the way?

antiabz Sat 08-Mar-14 08:35:59

Ah good a happy ending smile

Dillydollydaydream Sat 08-Mar-14 08:26:31

Ah glad it was ok in the end. Now at least you have more than 15mins to get yourself ready!
15 mins?!

nauticant Sat 08-Mar-14 07:54:14

Great news. But you should still LTB over the grumble mag.

sebsmummy1 Sat 08-Mar-14 07:44:34

Oh god that's GREAT news, bless you for having a lovely bloke and trusting your instincts. Have a lovely weekend away xxxx

LoveBeingCantThinkOfAName Sat 08-Mar-14 07:42:48

I think you should ltb anyway, 15 mins to get up and pack ridiculous

WeeClype Fri 07-Mar-14 22:25:20

That's great news smile

CashmereHoodlum Fri 07-Mar-14 22:21:56

Glad it was good news. Sorry if I alarmed you.

ThePartyArtist Fri 07-Mar-14 22:16:56

Thanks all- well I went with my instincts and am happy I did. .. Not only because he confirmed he IS taking me away, but also because I am now saved from his plan to wake me up on the day & tell me the taxi will be here in 15 mins! That would have been a relaxing start to a romantic weekend!
Thanks everyone for helping!

whattoWHO Fri 07-Mar-14 20:49:05

If it were me, I know I wouldn't be able to keep quiet for 2 weeks, so I'd question him about it now.

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