Moving back to uni after bad break up?(3 Posts)
Ok so I'm a 3rd year uni student, I recently split from my DP of 10 months however I found it really hard, I still have feelings for him but I know that we can't be together and that it's over.
We spent most of last year (both in our 2nd years) living together in a house with his friends, and that was also the plan for this year however since we have broken up I have no where to live. The room was in his name, so it's his.
I live 1.5 hour commute away from uni, so my dilemma is this.
Should I stay at home and commute or should I bite the bullet and get a room in a house with people that I don't know (did this for my 1st year, worked quite well)
I want to move on and make new friends and I can't really do that at home as I live in the middle of no where, there is no chance of me meeting new people or having an active night life from home. However I have considered getting a job in a bar so that I may meet people there.
I go to uni in Huddersfield, now the pros of moving there are that I will meet new people, and I can continue to have an active nightlife whilst there with some current friends (and hopefully new ones.)
However, when I last visited Hudd I found it really, really hard because there were so many memories tied there from me and my ex.
If I do take the risk then there is a chance of it going horribly wrong, ie. I may not like the people that I live with, or I may feel very alone and isolated (away from close family) in a town that I used to live in with my ex.
So basically, what you you guys do? Take the plunge and risk it going horribly wrong or would you stay at home where things are stagnant, not have a nightlife but work in a bar and hope to meet people there?
I'd say you have an entire working life ahead of you to acquire a social life. your final year will require quite a bit of effort and you'll be able to get quite a lot of studying done during your commute!
You'll also save on accommodation costs.
Unless there are important uni societies etc which will be difficult from a distance, I'm not sure I'd want to try and make up the numbers in a new set-up.
You could always start out commuting and ask around, see if something comes up.
Alternatively is there a town somewhere you could be a bit closer to uni (don't really know the geography) with a shorter commute where you might also find work?
Sorry you're down, hope you'll be on the up soon as you get back into the routine.
Take the plunge. Worst case scenario you hate it, go home at weekends and move back when your finished. Stop being scared, uni is meant to be the best time, I loved it and the couple of years after I kept living with friends. The ppl I lived with after uni I met through friends rather than them being the people i went to uni with. If that makes sense. they're still my best friends. Don't stay at home you will regret it and never move out.
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