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Lacoba66 Sun 11-Aug-13 11:41:35

Okay, so this is what has happened to me...

Me and my partner had been together for 2 years and were going through ( what I thought) was a temporary 'glitch'.

I had moved out for all of 2 weeks, but we had spoken and decided to try again.

I moved back in and on the 2nd night he had gone to a mates and I was messing about on the laptop. The history page showed AW.

When I looked in detail, there were screen pages of women that had been searched for in our area and it also showed the emails & bookings page and the feedback page ( there were no details on these screens).

I 'asked' him WTF had he been doing? He was away at the time on work, so initially all done by phone- he said he had no idea what i was talking about. He came home the following day to tell me this....

His initial excuse was that he had bumped in to someone who needed to get in contact with one of the escorts 5 years ago for whom he had helped create a web page on AW. He went on to say that he thought he could search her out for this mate- hence the local search. A total lie of course!

The following day he decided to "tell the truth" and said that he had received a Spam email which had his name in it and when he ("foolishly") clicked on this it took him to the website.

I had already had a search around the AW website and know that you can not get to the email/ bookings page nor the feedback page without being logged in ( also did that under a fictitious name/profile).

He denied that he had registered and has constantly relied on the fact that I can not/ could not provide evidence of a 'log in' page.

I have no idea what his password or nickname might have been, so I can't search any further, but if I ask for 'nickname/password and email verification to be sent and put his email address in then it does acknowledge that his email has been used on the site.

His answer to this is that he used to email the escort who's web page he had compiled and that is why AW have it.

He still denies ( can't recall ) if he ever had to register or had a password.

I asked him for the name of the escort he had helped and he denied, as said " I don't see why you should involve her in this". He used to be on F**kbook with her some years ago, but has not been for several years and so won't even give me her real name.

Does anyone out there think that any of his story is feasible?

I can not move on from this.

Thanks for reading :-(

AnyFucker Fri 11-Oct-13 18:13:47

They deleted your posts because they are not in the spirit of MN ie parents supporting other parents

Or childfree people supporting people with children or not

ABello Fri 11-Oct-13 17:59:07

I am not the EX anon. Potest as you all may, sorry. not giving you sad lot the satisfaction.
And I can see the draconian admins protecting you sorry folks from other peoples opinion by deleting my non abusive post.
sad sad sad

anon2013 Fri 11-Oct-13 16:49:18

Didn't deny he was the OP's ex did he?. Mug angry

AnyFucker Fri 11-Oct-13 16:41:03

It's lovely that we are getting some new supportive visitors to the site. hmm

ABello Fri 11-Oct-13 16:29:01

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plainjanine Fri 11-Oct-13 16:09:04

ABellend: women have deep issues of trust because so many of us have been lied to, cheated on and used, by men who continue to insult our intelligence when they are caught out.

Lol at "mental anguish" of having casual extramarital sex with a hooker escort.

anon2013 Fri 11-Oct-13 11:18:25

Didn't realise the threads been dead 2 months, high possibility its the OP's now presumably EX.

SilverApples Fri 11-Oct-13 11:16:56

Problem solved ABello, she's left him free to pay for as much sex as he wants.
She's free to find a partner who respects her.

mcmooncup Fri 11-Oct-13 11:13:31

Speaking from experience Abello?
Did some 'bitch' dump your sorry ass too?

anon2013 Fri 11-Oct-13 11:12:43

You sound like the OP's partner to me

ABello Fri 11-Oct-13 11:00:07

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ABello Fri 11-Oct-13 09:42:15

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Lacoba66 Sun 11-Aug-13 23:38:57

Having ended up In counselling for 5 months, I am prepared.

I know understand that regardless of anything else that was happening between us ( physically was good)

Its not my shit anymore. Life is about choices - this was his!

Big, big thank you for today's support :-) x

Jolleigh Sun 11-Aug-13 23:08:29

Well done Lacoba!

And as for the 'you don't understand' may not understand the why of it but you certainly understand what it is he's been doing. Enjoy the grovelling hun, just make sure your guard stays up to the lies he's likely to throw at you to 'explain'. x

AnyOldFucker Sun 11-Aug-13 22:40:26


Lacoba66 Sun 11-Aug-13 22:16:57

Cheers my dears!

Getting the usual " you don't understand" messages ....Sod that!

I have my moments, but I do know love/ life is not this.

I really, really appreciate the support from here.

Mummyoftheyear Sun 11-Aug-13 22:07:37

In a word... No.
Seems clear. He us most likely a cheat and a liar. ;(
Sending you hugs.

AnyOldFucker Sun 11-Aug-13 21:45:59

Hey, you are impressive

Lacoba66 Sun 11-Aug-13 21:32:01

Done & dusted! There was a lot of yeah, but, "I don't knows" and much but "I care about you".

Too late! Have spent months trying to sort this- wasted really, but at least I know that i tried and he still came out as a C.U.N.T

Sorry for bad language - lol x

Jolleigh Sun 11-Aug-13 20:17:54

Let us know how you get on. Good luck. x

Lacoba66 Sun 11-Aug-13 19:53:45

I will!

Now about to tell him ( he's abroad, so not easy) but need to move on.

Jolleigh Sun 11-Aug-13 19:14:50

Just think of that whenever you're starting to feel upset wink

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