I have had a horrible couple of days and would love some neutral 3rd party advice as I am so conflicted. I found out on Sunday my husband is on a GPS social networking site which uses your position to find people geographically close to you to talk to. Within this site you can join certain groups so it can show you people with similar interests. This wasn't so much of a problem as I trusted my husband completely but the groups he has joined are over 30's singles, 20's and 30s singles, black singles, partyers, I love Latinos etc and all the people he has been talking to are single women. We have been together for 6 years and have two children together but he has cheated on me twice before. I confronted him about this and he said he must have clicked on those groups by accident. When he realised I wasn't buying it he admitted he was in the wrong and was sorry. I think that I only have proof he was making himself available to other women but he could very well have cheated. He never wears his wedding ring but I hadn't thought anything of it until now. I feel so angry with him and I don't know what to do now. It completely blind sighted me as i thought we had perfect marriage and were very happy. How will I ever trust him again? Should I just leave?? What would you do???
You didn't have the perfect marriage though did you? He has cheated on you twice already, in 6 years, and very probably more you don't know about. I would leave, he's made it impossible to trust him IMO. I'm sorry
He is a cheat and he has done it at least twice and probably many more times. Sounds to me as if you have 2 choices. 1. Stay knowing that he will almost certainly keep cheating on you or 2. Leave him. Both are very tough but the second one likely gives you a better chance of long term happiness.
But I am afraid to say you didn't/don't have the perfect marriage. He cheated twice before and possibly other times. If you stay, you need to do so in the knowledge that he will continually cheat. Personally, I couldn't do that and I think women who do stay with cheating husbands have their self esteem completely stripped away. Do you want that and more importantly do you want that type of relationship as a model for your dc? Ultimately it is your choice but I think you need to start by facing up to the fact your marriage certainly isn't perfect. I am so, so sorry this has happened.
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