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fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 21:57:22

My ex fiancé's wife sent me friend request on fb. Bit if background: I have created something that has gained a bit of recognition (can't go into detail as it will appear to be shamelessly looking for sales and that is not my intention). this 'work' has been viewed by some as a testimony to my ex for pretty much no reason and is, in reality, no way done with him in mind. I think she has wind of this and is fishing. I'm not going to accept her as a friend but I'm extremely curious as to why she would want to befriend someone she has never met. We broke up a year before he met her. Would you ask what reason she wants to friend you or ignore? I apologise for vagueness but I really don't want to discuss the work I did as I am not 'sales fishing'.

fackinell Sat 12-Jan-13 09:22:51

Deafleopard, I declined the req so would have to req her to do that. I don't know if it was just a 'I know who you are' type of point (which is a bit chilling) or a drunken laugh just to see if I'd accept. I did consider PMing him to ask if he knew why she would req as its rather odd, but we ended on bad terms (mostly my fault) and I don't think it's fair to dredge all that up again by contact. He deserves to have moved on.

DeafLeopard Fri 11-Jan-13 23:46:03

Accept her, then immediately change your settings so she can't see anything, while you have a good rummage....then defriend wink

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 23:37:40

Ahhh Deafleopard but she would see mine!! And all my daft updates. I'm swithering about PMing now but going to try not to!!!!!

DeafLeopard Fri 11-Jan-13 23:35:12

I'm so nosy I would have to accept, have a good look at all her pictures and status updates and then defriend grin

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 23:31:03

InNeed this is just the encouragement I need!! I may have to now!! grin

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 23:29:17

grin @ fuckadoodle!! No and no to your guesses. I'm not famous or owt. It's not that exciting tbh. A lot of people have liked it much to my surprise.

fuckadoodlepoopoo Fri 11-Jan-13 23:03:31

Is it a painting or sculpture of a massive cock?

InNeedOfBrandy Fri 11-Jan-13 23:00:30

Why don't you msg her saying hi how are you, can I help you with anything smile and see what she says then? I'd be to nosey to leave it grin

fuckadoodlepoopoo Fri 11-Jan-13 23:00:19

Ooh busting to know what the work is!

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 22:51:30

InNeed I have ignored but yes, I should block. My settings are v high but I feel a bit U as she hasn't actually done me any harm. I really don't want her to feel insecure as she has nothing to worry about. I'm am curious to know why she wants to be a friend but to be sisterly I want to put her mind at rest. I am def not a threat and my work is nothing to do with him. Part nosey, part feeling a bit bad that she may be worried, really. I still don't want her knowing my personal business, however.

InNeedOfBrandy Fri 11-Jan-13 22:41:59

MrsD you so need a fake account wink

OP I'd ignore then, and block.

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 22:29:18

Oh God VB, sleeping dogs and all that!! grin It's not in my interest to cause her any trouble (she unfortunately appears to be doing that all by herself from what I've heard) its all just a little stalkerish and scary!! But I am a nosey bugger!! We have a mutual friend but I'm quite shocked she found me on the personal page. I have a one of 10 million name and the friend connection is very vague on her part.

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 22:25:34

Oh Mrs that's a bummer!! Well you are his mother and your family deserve privacy. I don't blame you!!

VBisme Fri 11-Jan-13 22:22:13

Well you could properly upset her and send HIM a friends request......

MrsDeVere Fri 11-Jan-13 22:22:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 22:19:03

Reckon so VB, but the nosey bitch in me is curious!!

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 22:18:08

I haven't blocked so she can PM me if she wishes. She hasn't liked my work page. Found it a little creepy if I'm honest. I'd rather she just said 'oh hi, I hear this was about X, is it true?' And I would happily reply.

VBisme Fri 11-Jan-13 22:13:48

I think shes being nosey, but you're doing the right thing by ignoring.

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 22:11:20

Oooh Mrs I don't blame you!! How did she find out you were the adoptive mother? Isn't that supposed to be confidential to protect you and DC?!!!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Fri 11-Jan-13 22:10:24

Sorry was laughing at Mr Grey < unhelpful >

fackinell Fri 11-Jan-13 22:09:59

grin InNeat, no I am not Ms Grey, I wish!! I'd be on hol giving zero fucks to the dilemma but thanks for the well done!!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Fri 11-Jan-13 22:09:02


sittinginthesun Fri 11-Jan-13 22:08:04

Just ignore then. Has she liked your work account too?

InNeedOfBrandy Fri 11-Jan-13 22:07:45

Can she msg you without being your friend? I only say that as she may want to speak to you but can't because of your settings and is not being nosey.

MrsDeVere Fri 11-Jan-13 22:07:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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