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Family down on luck. How do I help?

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clarexbp Fri 16-Nov-12 10:48:39

Some neighbours of ours are having a really rough time. They're a lovely young couple with three beautiful children but are (amongst other things) really struggling financially. I don't think they are going to have a very nice Christmas. I would love to help and am in a financial position to do so but don't want them to feel patronised or embarrassed. What can I do? I would prefer to do something anonymously (mystery sack of presents on doorstep, cash in blank envelope pushed through letterbox) but will this feel stalkery and / or patronising? Ideas gratefully received.

clarexbp Sat 17-Nov-12 09:43:28

Thanks Guys. You have been really helpful. No one has come back saying that I'm being patronising, which is what I was most concerned about, so I'm going to do it. I am moving towards sending some supermarket vouchers in the post (concensus seems to be that vouchers will be easier to accept than cash) and then I might wrap a few little presents for Xmas day too. Thanks for the Woolworths tip Goonatic - looks like they have some great stuff for kids. Any other suggestions for things an infant-aged girl and a junior-aged boy will like?

Goonatic Sat 17-Nov-12 21:44:35

Oh BUGGER! Just wrote a mere reply and then looked something up and it went!!!!!

Take 2:
Girl - sparkly pens, notepads, anything from Claires accessories ie hair bands, bobbles, lip balms, little bags etc, a secret diary, a nice cushion maybe from dunelm, anything Disney princesses, (jigsaws etc) maybe some earmuffs, gloves etc.

Boy- 'stomp rocket', some kind of gruesome facts book, Diary of a Wimpey Kid DVD or books, hex bugs, football, remote control insect/dinosaur, any kind of joke thing eg masks, fart sweets, snappy chewing gum etc, Lego.

Hope that helps!

Goonatic Sat 17-Nov-12 21:45:02

That would be a mega reply, not a mere reply!

clarexbp Sun 18-Nov-12 00:06:05

That's fab Goonatic - thank you for having the patience to write it all out twice :-)

Goonatic Sun 18-Nov-12 10:55:21


Newbizmum Sat 01-Dec-12 04:22:09

I love the idea of helping but the greatest help might not be Christmas but perhaps paying the gas or electricity bill. It could even be the mortgage.

Yet I understand you might feel a little upset if none was spent on Christmas but if you are sure they will not squander it on iphones and booze, cash is the best offer.

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