Just found out that an old friend's mum has died and the funeral is on Friday. I need to take my mum to a hosp appointment, so I probably won't make it to the funeral service. Is it really really bad form to go along to the purvey to see the family? Is it worse or better than not going at all?
I must admit I thought of wake as sad - in fact the quiet mourning of the deceased before the funeral - but it's slipped into more general useage as the social gathering afterwards. I hadn't come across purvey except in the sense of a verb meaning to be a provider of goods