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I need a kick up the arse!(9 Posts)
I’m so annoyed with myself. I’ve been wanting to lose a stone since my last baby was born (coming up to 3 years!) and after hating feeling a bit fat all last summer I told myself I would definitely lose the weight before this summer. But I haven’t. I’ve got a wedding coming up that I really wanted to slim down for and I’m so upset with myself that I haven’t done it! I have been trying over the last few weeks, I’ve been using my fitness pal and sticking to 1400 calories a day (id guess that my usual intake without restraint is often 2000 ish and probably more, so this felt like a good amount to stick to) but after a week or so of that I hadn’t lost a pound and I lost heart and have been a bit hit and miss with it since. I find I start off well then lose enthusiasm and feel depressed at the thought of no treats and constant control over eating, then I rebel by eating a family bag of chocolate 🙈 how can I break out of this cycle?!
I’m not huge by any means (10 stone 4, size 12-14) but I’m short and I feel much happier with myself about a stone lighter.
If I go below 1400 calories I just feel starving and deprived!
As hard as it may sound, I think the trick is to not get too fixated on short term losses. There are all kind of factors that influence how much you weigh; hormones, eating too much salty food, hot weather etc. So you may not see any results until you’re a few weeks in. The good news is that when you do, they may well be bigger than expected.
So don’t lose heart over what happens over a single week. Sometimes it’s just not long enough to see a change.
Do you do any exercise? 1400 kcal sounds about right to me, provided you’re not completely stationary throughout the day. Some gentle exercise should be enough to get some of that weight shifting, but obviously the more you can do the faster it should drop off.
Ignore me if this is completely off whack but are you absolutely sure you are only eating 1400? It is easy to have a mouthful here and handful there.
Get out walking 10,000 steps a day and try stick to a healthier diet rather a strict one! Load up on lean protein and fresh fruit and veg. You'll feel fantastic too! Take the first step today and get out for a long walk, guarantee it lifts your spirts a bit! x
Btw - don't deprive yourself of treats, if it's not sustainable you'll never stick to it! Slow and steady with small changes and more exercise is a great way for a long lasting lifestyle change!
Thanks for the replies, they are all helpful! I know I need to focus on the long term and not just obsess over short term loss, I did start exercising more (gym twice a week plus more walking) but I’ve been rubbish with that too lately. The stupid thing is that I was feeling better and less bloated when I was sticking to 1400 a day and I started to feel more toned from exercising, I felt like I’d lost weight then I weighed myself and I hadn’t lost anything and it just sort of felt like ‘what’s the point?’ Then I gave up. Which is ridiculous I know. It just feels impossible some days, I can maintain this weight easily but I just want to drop a stone and maintain there instead! It’s frustrating.
I definitely was sticking to 1400 while I was tracking it on my fitness pal. At the moment I’m just eating whatever and then berating myself in my head.
I think it’s totally normal to feel like that too be honest. We make big changes, so we want to see big results! But unfortunately weightloss doesn’t always work like that.
What might help you is to take some body measurements. I found that during the first few weeks of dieting I didn’t lose much weight, but did lose inches. After a while that changed to only losing weight and currently I’m losing both 🤔 Adding some different metrics may help to stop you focussing too much on those scales!
Sounds like the 1400 was working well for you but you didn't give it enough time. I totally agree with the advice to take some measurements, as an increase in exercise should build muscle. So the scales do not tell the whole story. Get back on track and see how it goes. Also remember that the closer you are to your correct weight the harder it can be to lose it, and the longer it can take. So hang in there. Consider your arse kicked. And good luck.
Thank you all! I’m getting back on it today!
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