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Feeling frustrated, uncomfortable and angry with myself. Anyone else?

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IfeelFloopy Sun 22-Apr-18 17:22:54

I am 34. 5ft6 and nearly 12 stone. I am officially overweight. No children yet (we’re trying).

I have only ever successfully dieted once. I was 22 and still living at home. Main meals mostly cooked for me. That was following old style weight watchers. I found it tough and was hungry often but managed to keep the weight off over the years. Up until about 5 years ago where it has slowly crept back on. My weight was usually about 9.5 - 10 stone and I felt comfortable.

I have been with my partner for 3 years. This is when I have gained most of my weight. I keep trying slimming world. I keep giving up and going back to old (really bad) habits. The longest I stuck to it was 3 weeks. I lost 6lb during this time. My partner has gained weight too but is generally a small build anyway but with good muscle tone. He is also healthy and has always exercised regularly. Unlike me.

I have a very physical job and although I always eat breakfast I often eat lunch late because I don’t make time for it. I then get over hungry and make really poor food choices.

I’m now at the point where I’m really sad about the way I look and feel. My happy weight is about 2 stone lighter than I currently am. I keep trying and losing motivation. I was at a party yesterday and I barely recognise myself in the photos. I didn’t feel good and I certainly do not look good. We only have sex when it’s the right time of the month for conception and it’s mostly because I feel so uncomfortable at the moment.

I have once again convinced myself that I will start again tomorrow. Making sure I have all the right foods in and preparing meals in advance. I don’t really know what the point of this post is as I know it has to all come from me. Maybe there are other people reading who feel the same and we can support each other. I’m just feeling really low and annoyed with myself. At the same time I’m trying to like myself and be kind and encouraging to myself.

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Gemi33 Sun 22-Apr-18 17:52:01

Yes, Yes and Yes. I am also 34 but heavier and shorter than you so look huge. I am completely miserable and hate going anywhere because I look awful and yet I seem to have no motivation and I am forever 'starting again' and failing. I really don't know why I can't do it.


Beechview Sun 22-Apr-18 17:53:59

I feel like I would enjoy life more if I was slimmer. I need to lose 2 stone to look decent and 3 to be slim.

I’m also angry with myself and feel like I’m a bit of a loser. I feel like I should stop acting like I’m greedy and uneducated about nutrition and start living a decent healthy life.
I just need to stop eating crap. It shouldn’t be this hard sad

Downeyhouse Sun 22-Apr-18 17:58:22

Feel the same and feel your pain.

I started a week ago and am determined this time. I bought some cheap digital scales and downloaded a weight tracking app onto my phone. I weigh myself first thing and that then motivates me before I even eat anything.

I have set myself a target of 15kg weight loss in 15 weeks.

The app shows you progress and shows what percentage of your weight loss you have achieve (6% in few days) and your latest BMI.

I am very visual and it helps me to see progress like that.

I have also Thrown in a 15 minute beginners workout from you tube.
Have just done it whilst supper is cooking.

Baby steps but am seeing some small progress.

Ohforfoxsakereturns Sun 22-Apr-18 17:58:28

Same OP.

I did really well at the start of this week. Then life got challenging and it went tits up.

It needs focus and I need to pay attention to myself. I am simply not able to focus on myself. So I say ‘fuck it, have the custard slice’. Far more time efficient to show my love with cake than time. (Single parent, job, 4 DCs and a hell of a week).

I really like SW. I like how eating well makes me feel.

IfeelFloopy Sun 22-Apr-18 19:27:56

Thanks for all of your replies.

Beech I get what you mean about acting uneducated. I feel that I have a good grasp on nutrition but I don’t follow it at all. What I have been putting in my body is actually grim. I genuinely wake up in the night worrying about what I’m doing to my health consuming way too much salt fat and sugar. But when I’m hungry and in a rush that worry goes out of the window.

The app sounds good Downey, I will check it out. One thing I definitely remember helping my success last time was thinking to myself...even if I only lose 1lb it’s going in the right direction. I think because I have so much further to go this time 1lb feels like not much when being mindful of food takes so much energy. Youtube workout also sounds good and is something I’ve thought of. I hate the gym environment. I’ve wasted so much money on gym membership cos I don’t feel comfortable there. I may have to give that idea a go myself.

Fox with 4 DC it is no wonder time for yourself is near impossible! I don’t even have that excuse!

I have seen some negative things said about slimming world but I like the plan and think it can only go wrong if you don’t apply a bit of common sense to it. That is why I am keen to get into the swing of it.

One thing I have decided to do is try and look after myself in the ways that I usually neglect. So I have contacted a beauty salon about a treatment I would like to try. And tonight I will plan tomorrow’s meals.

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TheYesWoman Sun 22-Apr-18 21:24:24

Following with interest!

IfeelFloopy Mon 23-Apr-18 20:45:59

So I decided that instead of starting today, I would use today to prepare properly. I bought some bathroom scales, bought food ready for the next few days and made a massive fruit salad to see DP and I through the week. I’ve joined some Facebook slimming world recipe pages and I’m feeling ready to give this a good go (again)! 🙈.

Kick starting tomorrow morning with overnight oats, something I’ve never tried before but I’ve heard good things about.

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FelixCited Mon 23-Apr-18 21:18:50

Good luck, I do SW and I’m now 2lbs away from my target weight. I find buying the SW magazine motivating as well as trying a new recipe every week.
You can do it !

agteacht Mon 30-Apr-18 00:46:05

How you getting on OP? X

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