Best weightloss plan

[withaspongeandarustyspanner]

Apologies - there must be loads of these threads - I've not been on MN for ages so haven't seen them.

My H left nearly a year ago and I lost A LOT of weight because of it all, but now it's all crept back on. I'd like to tackle it and lose it. Also my DD has been emotionally over eating and has gained a lot of weight - she's in Y7 (I have spoken to a local eating disorder support and counselling group who have advised that we just focus on healthy eating and not get overly bogged down with 'dieting'. As you can imagine, this is causing me a great deal of anguish as I don't want to draw attention to anything for fear that it turns into a full blown eating disorder.

So, from your experience, what's the best no nonsense, straight-forward healthy eating plan that I can follow to improve our health where DD doesn't really notice that we're on a diet?

Thanks in advance

[StarDust17]

You're probably better off eating healthy rather than signing up to a diet plan with your daughter. Make meals together from scratch, things like stews, soups and spaghetti. Don't have puddings, have fruit and natural yogurt for snacks and don't buy "treat food". Teach her how to cook and eat lots of vegetables. And occasionally do some baking together so she learns that no food is off-limits but some food is every day food and some food is occasional food (this is my main downfall...!).

Remember that she's about the age where some girls put on puppy fat. So if I were you, I wouldn't mention weight at all. I'd just say that you want to do more things together and cook together.

You could also increase exercise by doing that together too, swimming, cycling, running etc are all low cost and could be really bonding for you.

[withaspongeandarustyspanner]

I know you are right and we do a lot of that already. I realise that it is partly to do with puberty, but she has been over eating and secret eating and buying things at school and on the way home to eat. I don't mention weight, but other people at school have started calling her fat. She's mentioned it a few times. On the whole, we do eat healthily, but I think it's portion size too. She also gets really narky if I give her a smaller portion. I don't give in, but my god, is there a tantrum afterwards.

I realise upping the exercise would help - but this is a bit tricky as she's the eldest of four and I'm now on my own since their father left. Maybe though, now the nights are getting lighter, we can all bike, scoot or run to the park and play for a bit. Maybe that's doable.

[StarDust17]

It's always easier when in summer when it's lighter.

It sounds like she's comfort eating. Maybe it's a control thing especially if your ex left last year. You can control what you eat even when you can't control what's going on around you...

Is there any way you can limit her money so she can't just buy crap on the way home from school?

I'm definitely no expert, but I think you need to show her that food is fuel for the body, not a comfort mechanism. Someone once said to me "You can't put diesel in a petrol car and expect good results. It's the same with your body." But I think she's probably a bit young for tough love like that...!

Maybe when she says that people at school call her fat, say "no you're not, I think you're beautiful. But if it's bothering you what they say, why don't we do 'such and such' together". See what she says and let her lead it.

[StarDust17]

*It's always easier to be healthier in summer when the sun is out.

Sorry, didn't read back what I'd written!

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