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How to stop giving up after a bad day!!!

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BeBe32 Tue 17-Jan-17 18:46:04

Hi everyone

I'm not sure if there is an answer to this but I'd really appreciate it anyone does have any suggestions. Every time I have a bad day, eat badly or not exercise I end up thinking 'oh what's the point, might as well eat what I want since I've ruined it anyway'. I'm forever giving up and starting again and getting heavier and heavier as a result. I know logically this is a silly attitude and that if I just get back on track it would be much better but I just can't seem to do it! So today I've had yet another 'bad' day, I weigh in on Saturday and feel like giving up and waiting until then to start again (although I don't really want to that!).

Any tips or suggestions for getting out of this mindset?


BusterGonad Tue 17-Jan-17 18:51:58

Stop following faddy diets, give yourself a break from diets and allow yourself to eat what you want when you want. E.g. If you fancy a snickers bar for lunch and not a sandwich eat it. Totally forget what you've been trained to think and eventually you will fall into a natural way of eating. It's the I'll start again tomorrow that fucks your eating up. Diets (as we know them, slimming world, weight watchers) do not work, if they did everyone would be thin and they'd go bankrupt.

BusterGonad Tue 17-Jan-17 18:53:07

Also the dieting industry thrives on your lack of self esteem, full of empty promises. They are invented for you to fail so you're keep going back.

BeBe32 Tue 17-Jan-17 19:25:59

Thank you. That's really good advice. I feel like I've been in this cycle of dieting for so long, I find it really hard to just eat normally!

SSYMONDS Tue 17-Jan-17 21:30:09

I'm like you I think, I got into good/bad thinking around food. I haven't entirely resolved it but one change that really has made me feel better is accepting that there is only now: for example, if I went out last night and drank too much and ate unhealthy food, that used to necessitate a huge hangover breakfast and a few days of eating shite before turning over a new leaf and being 'good' again. Now, I'll still have the blow out, but it stops there. As soon as I hear myself planning to be 'good' at a later date I realise I'm trying to trick myself into more unhealthy behaviour. My next food choice has to be one that makes me feel better, not worse. It's quite a relief to short circuit it!

SunshineOutdoors Tue 17-Jan-17 21:33:59

I've heard other people say that one bad choice or day won't make a difference, it's the other 20 meals / 6 days that count. This can help people to pull it back quicker as the whole week isn't lost. You've still got time to pull it back before weigh in day.

SunshineOutdoors Tue 17-Jan-17 21:42:50

Saturday is ages away. Even if you maintain instead of losing it's still good work

harderandharder2breathe Tue 17-Jan-17 21:56:05

Someone on here said to me that if you have one flat tire, you don't go and slash the other three and scrap the car, you just fix the flat one and move on. That helped me.

I think even when I've binged while I've been on SW it's not been as bad as before. So even though it's still bad, it's an improvement. That helps too.

Bluntness100 Tue 17-Jan-17 22:03:36

I think this is very common, you see it s lot on here,,,I shall start again tomorrow, I've ruined it today, it's really just an excuse to eat crap for the rest of the day as you'd rather do that than eat properly. There is no need to eat shite for the rest of the day because you had an unhealthy breakfast or whatever.

I think admitting to yourself that's exactly what your doing, giving yourself an excuse to eat more crap is the first step into stopping it. Sure it's no fun to stop there and eat properly for the rest of the day, but the second step is asking yourself do you actually want to lose weight or not. If the answer is yes, then don't give yourself the excuse to eat off plan. If the answer is no, then go for it.

SSYMONDS Thu 19-Jan-17 22:33:36

How you doing OP?

BeBe32 Sun 22-Jan-17 08:30:53

Sorry I'm only just replying! Thanks for the posts on this thread. Well, it wasn't a great week, I put on a pound and generally just feeling unmotivated. When I lost weight previously I felt so motivated and focused and for some reason despite being miserable about my weight I just can't get that feeling back, I'm so frustrated. Hope you are all doing ok?


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