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Okay to leave 9yo in house alone while I run 6-7am?

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bigbrit Tue 19-Jan-16 15:53:29

I'm wondering if it's okay to go out for an hour, to run, before 9yo wakes up? I'm a fat single, home educating mum and it's just the two of us 24/7. We live in a safe area.

What do you honestly think?

katienana Tue 19-Jan-16 15:55:01

Yes, I think I would have been fine at that age. But only you know your 9yo.

bigbrit Tue 19-Jan-16 15:58:39

Thank you Katieana.

JennyOnAPlate Tue 19-Jan-16 15:59:54

I think it's fine. Do you carry a phone with you when you run so she can call you if she needs you?

ClaudiaWankleman Tue 19-Jan-16 16:03:45

I think this is fine too. It's too early for her to need to do anything other than sleep or sit on the sofa watching TV/ reading school book and eating cereal. Then when you come back it can be shower/ teeth/ getting dressed time etc.

KP86 Tue 19-Jan-16 16:05:12

<Stating the obvious>

As long as DD knows where you are and when you'll be back I think it's fine.

Good on you for doing something for yourself smile

bigbrit Tue 19-Jan-16 16:05:40

I haven't started running. Never left him alone before. DS lacks confidence and initiative. But we could have a mobile phone each for this purpose. I would run very close by.

milkysmum Tue 19-Jan-16 16:07:52

Yes I think so if he was sensible, most likely be asleep, knew what to do in an emergency etc.
Good for yousmile

Dundee86 Tue 19-Jan-16 16:08:34

I think it's a pretty ideal first try at home alone - because you could adapt length of run to his confidence & get used to it before you 'have' to.

I would say that it is essential for him to have a backup contact in case he can't raise you/you have an accident.

I gave my DC several backup plans for various 'emergencies' - and set clear rules (no cooking; no door answering etc). Don't assume common sense more than you have to!

ClaudiaWankleman Tue 19-Jan-16 16:09:01

Perhaps if DS is nervous you two could go on a walk around the circuit that you're planning to take, so that if he calls you you can tell him where you are and he'll be able to know exactly where that is and how quickly you'll be able to get back?

Akire Tue 19-Jan-16 16:10:37

What time does he normal wake up? I would be happ to leave a 9y old if I was just running around the local streets and could be home ASAP.

But if he's nervous he may need starting off slowly so once hes awake you go up and down the street for 10m etc so he gets used to how the house feels on his own. Can be scarey for a nervy 9y old if it's still dark outside or it's windy and their imagination starts going over board. Long as he then feels happy waking up coming down to watch tv (if you leave lights on etc) then sounds good.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Tue 19-Jan-16 16:19:15

He will surprise you!! DS is very sensible given the chance

ItMustBeBedtimeSurely Tue 19-Jan-16 16:23:36

I think it's fine, but I would pick a figure of eight type circuit which took me past the house at the mid point - so you're never further than 15 mins run away if he calls.

bigbrit Tue 19-Jan-16 16:25:06

Thank you ladies for all the kind support and advice. I will use all of your suggestions and ease him into being confident home alone.

This is the first time I have asked for advice online and I'm so happy to receive positive responses. Feel so relieved. Someone once me you shouldn't leave a child alone under the age of 12.

bigbrit Tue 19-Jan-16 16:29:36

Someone once *told me you shouldn't leave a child alone under the age of 12.

Floralnomad Tue 19-Jan-16 16:30:55

I'm not sure I would ,it depends whether the child is happy to be left , as you are HE I can't see why you don't incorporate a run together into your day , or you run and he cycles .

Titsalinabumsquash Tue 19-Jan-16 16:33:51

I would, in fact I do offer my 9 year old the chance to stay at home when I run his older brother to scouts on a Friday night, it's 30 min round trip, sometimes he says yes sometimes he says no. I would have no qualms at all about leaving him in the morning whilst I ran.

bigbrit Tue 19-Jan-16 16:54:13

I originally thought about me running and he cycling with me. We tried it once. But it wasn't fun. He kept stopping and calling for me to stop. He's not confident on bike. Also, I felt I wouldn't be able to rely on him to be up and ready for a quick run every morning.

I want to exercise alone. No one to bring me down saying they want to go home. None of that "come on. get your shoes on. get your coat on. etc etc"

Oldisthenewblack Tue 19-Jan-16 17:06:54

Good luck with your running. I'm sure your ds will be just fine - you've obviously thought it through and the fact that you're asking advice is great.

KP86 Tue 19-Jan-16 17:42:02

Sorry about calling DS a DD. I thought I'd read it up thread.

bigbrit Tue 19-Jan-16 17:56:39

Thanks everyone. I appreciate all your comments.

I've just gone out for a walk around the block for five minutes. DS watched TV. He was totally fine. He said it's just like when he wakes up before me in the mornings.

Will go out for 10 minutes tomorrow.

UnderTheGreenwoodTree Tue 19-Jan-16 23:03:37

I have no qualms about leaving a sensible 9yr old who is happy to be left, and could contact me. Good on you for taking up running - I don't blame you for wanting to exercise alone either.

I might be a bit reticent to leave them while they were asleep though - I'm not sure why. Possibly the risk of a fire (which I am a bit flappy about)- and them being upstairs alone in the house. I think I would prefer they were awake and aware when I left them iyswim.

namechangedtoday15 Tue 19-Jan-16 23:11:32

I wouldn't. But I think it's personal choice. I too think we live in a safe area but we were burgled before Christmas at about 4 pm on a Tuesday. I dread to think what would have happened had my 10 year olds been home alone.

KeyserSophie Wed 20-Jan-16 05:39:18

Agree with Greenwood. I'd be happy to leave him awake but not asleep because the biggest "risk" is probably a house fire. I'd just go in the day.

Youcantmoancanyou Wed 20-Jan-16 05:47:49

Yes, I think awake is just about ok if he is happy with it, asleep is a definite no-no.

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