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Officially my heaviest and time to change. Anyone with me?

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DreamingOfADifferentMe Tue 21-Jul-15 16:37:10

Hi all,

Well, having just returned from a gorgeous week's holiday, I decided to take the plunge and step onto the scales. Bloody hell.

I'm officially the heaviest I've ever been. I look awful. And I'm desperate to change. I've spent the last few days reading threads on here that I think will inspire me and I'm determined to make a change.

I have a number of milestones to get to, including a holiday in October, but the big one in my head is going to see the GP in a few weeks' time for a repeat prescription for my contraceptive pill. Last year, she made some reference about my weight as they may not have been allowed to prescribe it, given my high BMI. She did, and prescribed me a year's worth, and they're nearly gone. Have I lost weight? Have I heck - I'm actually heavier, and I can't bear the idea of going back and having the same utterly humiliating conversation.

So, I'm just debating the best approach. I know low/no carbs works really well for me, though I can struggle to stick with it, but that's what I'm going for initially.

This morning I weighed in at 15st 11, and I'm just 5ft 4. I'm a size 18. This cannot be who I am. I am not the woman who looks back at me in the mirror.

My mission is to shift, ideally, around 3st initially. I know that I look and feel great at 12st something, and even though I'll be far from a size 10 skinny minnie, I will feel fantastic. Then, when I get to that point, we'll see.

However, when there's such a long road ahead, I know I get easily defeated. So, does anyone fancy a hand to hold along a similar path? I'm happy to give tonnes of support and will cheer folk on, anyone fancy returning the favour?

MessEnoughClean Tue 21-Jul-15 16:49:23

Yes please!!! I have needed to lose weight for a long time and I have tried many times, initially I do well but I always lose motivation. Also I am rubbish at doing any form of exercise but I've been thinking about trying Couch to 5K.

This morning I weighed in at 15st 7. I'm 5ft 7, I have PCOS so the majority of my extra weight is round my middle, so I am a size 18/20.

I'm going on a short holiday in exactly a months time, so my first goal is to lose a decent amount (not sure how much but it always comes off quicker right at the start) and just feel generally a bit healthier for then. After that, we'll see!

DreamingOfADifferentMe Tue 21-Jul-15 17:26:50

Hey there Mess (or do you prefer Clean?), welcome on board.

I firmly believe that in a month you can make a real difference. And we will. In a month, we can have lost a decent amount of weight and most importantly, we'll be feeling in control rather than being controlled by how much we hate our bodies.

So, what approach are you taking? As I say, I know low-carb works for me, though I don't do it as 'properly' as the folks on the low-carb thread, so today has looked like this:
Breakfast - full-fat greek yoghurt with some raspberries
Lunch - sticky chicken drumsticks with salad
Dinner - poached smoked cod with mange tout, asparagus and baby corn

What about you?

RumAppleGinger Tue 21-Jul-15 17:51:08

I'll join you. I was debating starting my own thread but here looks like a friendly supportive place so count me in.

I'm 5ft 7 and currently 17.7 stone 18 on top, 20 bottom carry most of my weight on arse, hips and thighs.

I have (almost always) been overweight. Fat kid, fat teen. In my twenties at my very heaviest, about 20 stone I woke up and did something about it loosing about 8 stone. In about a year and a half.

Then I changed jobs from running around in retail all day to a sedentary admin role. The weight started to creep back on and I was about 14 stone when I got married, 15 when I had DS1, lost a bit of baby weight after him and then miscarried and comfort ate back to 16 stone. I am currently on maternity leave with DS2 and if anything have put on more weight since giving birth in November.

I've had a few attempt in the last few months but my heart was never really in it. This time is different and I'm in the right head space. I spoke to DH at the weekend about wanting to lose weight again. He's one of these bastards that can eat whatever he wants and never gain a pound. At pushing 40 he still has the metabolism of a 12 year old. prick. He is however wonderfully supportive and has never made my weight an issue.

I joined the gym yesterday and did an hour and am about to go again. I've loaded MFP onto my phone and am logging everything I eat, no cheating. And I've made an appointment with my GP to see if she can offer any support. I'd love to get some CBT as my whole relationship with food is completely fucked up.

To my surprise I'm still able to run 5k after doing c2k a couple of years ago.

Sorry that's a ridiculously long post. But the gist of it is. I'm in.

Toowittoowoo Tue 21-Jul-15 17:55:15

I've been reducing my carbs, eating healthier and cutting out snacks and I now have a healthy BMI. I am carrying on eating it same way know to maintain it.

It has taken ages because I wasn't very committed to start and I struggled to find out how to eat differently from the rest of the family (or how to modify the food they liked to suit me). Work lunches were the easiest and I have now settled on prawn and avocado salad, tuna and cannellini bean salad, ham and egg salad and chicken salad with mustard mayo. All my salad consist of chopped pepper, cucumber, tomato, lettuce and a bit of sweetcorn. On the weekend I'd eat their sandwich filling as a salad or their pasta sauce with 1/2 tin of pulses instead of pasta.

Don't know whether that might help....It took my ages to work it out!

PogoBob Tue 21-Jul-15 18:04:08

I'm with you. 17st 6 and 5' 8 this morning. size 18 - 22 depending on the cut. Turn 35 this year and always intended to be at a 'good' weight. Want to lose 3st to start.

In the midst of bath-bedtime routine so will post more details later

MessEnoughClean Tue 21-Jul-15 18:16:03

Hello all! Um, Mess is fine with me thanks Dreaming. I think my approach is going to be similar to yours, low carbs but not too strict as I LOVE pasta so if I deny myself for too long I know I will fail. I also have a strong family history of diabetes (although at last check my bloods were fine) so I've been reading a bit about low GI and hoping to stick to that as much as possible. So basically like yourself lots of salad and protein - I'm not too keen on cooked veg unless it's been cooked to almost mush so I tend not to bother and just stick to salad.

In the spirit of full disclosure I had a McDonalds for lunch! Think that was part of the reason your post jumped out at me as I wasn't feeling great after eating it!!!

What is everyone's opinions on weighing in? I know lbs lost isn't everything but I do like to know how I'm doing - I'm thinking maybe once a week but I know I'll end up checking more often than that at least to start with.

RumAppleGinger Tue 21-Jul-15 18:34:40

I'm going for once a week on a Monday mess. That way I won't let myself get carried away with weekend indulgences! Also the scales at my gym are those massive things you have to stick 20p in so I don't check too often as I don't take any cash to the gym.

Letmegetanamechange Tue 21-Jul-15 19:06:43

Me me me!

Weighed in at 17st 10lbs the other day (also my heaviest confused) and I'm 5'8, wearing 20 (some 18s in stretchy clothes!!)

I'm on day 2 of low carbing after seeing my mum lose 1 and a half stone and her partner losing 5 stone. It's weird getting my head around the whole "eat full fat" as I've always bought low or fat free thinking they were better for me. Before DD came along I lost 4 stone through calorie counting and exercise and was a 12-14 and felt good in myself for the first time ever. I'd like to be my pre baby weight of 12st 11lbs again so that 5 stone I need to lose!

So far I'm feeling positive. I am massively addicted to sugar and carbs so it WILL be a battle but I literally NEED to do this. My knees ache, my thighs chafe and my double chin and bingo wings are hideous!

Good luck with your journey smile

DreamingANewBeginning Tue 21-Jul-15 19:20:52

Can I join too please?

5ft 2 - 13st 4lb and feel very huge!

Started weight watchers today as this has worked for me in the past, lost weight for my wedding and the conception of DC2 this way.

DC2 turns 2 this week and I am only 6lb lighter now than after giving birth to him. This is officially my heaviest 'natural' weight and I hate it.

I have an event mid October which requires a dress - I have loads of lovely ones but none fit!! So that's my first goal, to drop as much as I can before then so I can get back into one of my dresses.

Exercise is pretty good anyway as I spin three times a week to stave off depression (struggle with aerobics and such at the mo as excess weight is causing existing joint problems to worsen).

I do WW online as meetings clash with my spinning classes so no support from others - will be nice to chat on here with others xx

DreamingANewBeginning Tue 21-Jul-15 19:32:11

Ooh just spotted similarity in name to OP. Will NC when I can figure out how in iPhone xx

TheNewMeChallenge Tue 21-Jul-15 19:36:26

NCd grin xx

SpanielDaniel Tue 21-Jul-15 19:36:42

Raps on the door

I'll join, will weigh in the morning but I'm 5'10 and probably about 15'3 ish..... Need to shift some lbs as I'm very unhealthy and feel it when chasing after toddler DD. I don't want to be the fat mum always sat down sad

kavv0809 Tue 21-Jul-15 20:34:14

I'd like to join you please. I'm 5ft 3 and 13 stone 5. Used to be 10st 4 and felt great at that weight, but 2 DC have put paid to that. I'm on the brink of doing the 30 day autoimmune reset and hoping that will kick start some good habits.

DreamingOfADifferentMe Tue 21-Jul-15 20:34:29

Yay, just checked back and there's a load of us, which is great. It sounds like we're all struggling individually, and all have the same issues around being 'the fat mum' and wanting to be at a place weight-wise where we look and feel so much better.

So, onwards and upwards (or, rather, downward on the scales). We absolutely can and will do this!

DreamingOfADifferentMe Tue 21-Jul-15 20:36:16

Oh, and meant to say, happy for a weekly weigh in, say on a Monday? I weighed in today and will try and not hop on the scales until Mon morning.

MessEnoughClean Tue 21-Jul-15 20:46:55

Monday weigh in is good for me, I'll try not to check in the meantime but I can't promise anything! I've just downloaded c25k onto my phone so will start that tomorrow - I have a dodgy knee from an old injury though which has always put me off running in the past.

MrsEvadneCake Tue 21-Jul-15 20:51:20


Can I join too please? I'm 5'3 and 17st 7lb. Very fed up of this. I'm going to use MFP to track my eating and go lower carb than now. I don't want to ache anymore.

MammaFett Tue 21-Jul-15 20:53:27

Can I join too please? I'm 5"7 size 16. I went to the doctors last week and he gave me a BHF booklet that's based on healthy eating. Been following that. He also referred me to a coach type person (can't remember what he called them) but they haven't got untouched yet. I weigh roughly 1st (couple lbs under I think) but my ideal weight is 1st.

DreamingOfADifferentMe Tue 21-Jul-15 20:53:54

Oh Mess, me too with the dodgy knee. Bravo for starting C25k though, but take it easy - you don't want to do yourself a mischief!

Kav, what's the 30-day reset? And what is everyone else doing?

I've been toying with a meal-replacement-type diet such as Lighter Life or Exante, but I don't know that I could easily stick with them as we socialise a lot with friends (ie, they come here when the children are in bed and I cook) whereas with low carb, or at least my version of it, I can still eat. I have tonnes of reading up on it to do though - can't quite get my head around the high fat, low/no carb element...

RumAppleGinger Tue 21-Jul-15 20:54:02

Good luck with c25k. I hated it and loved it in equal measure! Repeat a week when you need to but if you keep at it your ability just builds. When I started it I struggled to run for a minute and even now at 17 stone I can still run 5k. So much of it is mental. If you tell yourself you can it's much easier.

Just back from the gym. Going to have a bath and go to bed so I'm not tempted to eat anything else.

MammaFett Tue 21-Jul-15 20:54:32

15st! And ideal Is 10st! Damn phone!

MrsRonBurgundy Tue 21-Jul-15 21:00:04

Can I join in please ladies? I'm 5ft 9 and weight 12 stone. Have been unwell and recently had surgery so have been comfort eating. I'm looking to get down to around 10.5 stone to be a comfy size 10.

Monday weigh ins sound good!! I've eaten really badly today:
Coco pops
White sandwich with cheese!
Salmon with new potatoes and green beans
Strawberry split ice lolly


It'll be nice to have a place to drop in and encourage each other

MerdeAlor Tue 21-Jul-15 21:03:17

Can I join too?

Currently on a month long tour of the US and the weight is piling on.

I'm 6 foot and was 14 stone before leaving on holiday although I believe I weigh significantly more now. I'm ashamed by how my body looks and feels.

I have a disability which means I can't exercise. I use food to give me energy and am normally pretty good at eating healthily with a low carb, low suger diet, which prevents energy crashes during the day.
My food has been chaotic on this holiday - burgers, fries, donuts, alcohol, chocolate. Three large unhealthy meals a day. Help!

I know I can make healthy choices on the rest of my holiday to prevent any more weight piling on, I just need to do it.

Letmegetanamechange Tue 21-Jul-15 21:06:08

Dreaming I shall hopefully remember Monday weigh in smile I've been reading loads of stuff about the science behind low carbs. Watched a documentary called "Fat head" (I think that's what it was) on YouTube which was good (if not a little cringey!)

I made cauliflower cheese with bacon, sour cream, full fat mayo and loads of cheese and its actually left me really full. Went back for a little nibble and got the uncomfortable feeling in my stomach which lets me know I'm definitely full and don't need to eat anything else.

Right now I could just go for some chocolate though confused

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