Wedding gift etiquette

[AmIThough]

I know there are similar threads to this but I need to ask - what is the wedding gift etiquette when you're expected to travel to a wedding and will have no choice but to stay overnight?

We have a number of weddings next year - UK and abroad - with varying distances (between 2 hour flight to a 6 hour drive).

We're looking at around £2500-£3000 to be able to attend all weddings.

What's the gift etiquette when you're expected to travel and stay overnight? Do you still give a wedding gift?

[maxelly]

I think the rule is the same for every wedding, give what you can afford/want to give. If you are skint and that is nothing at all, so be it, the couple shouldn't be 'expecting' gifts per se, and your presence and effort to get there should be appreciated regardless of whether you bring a gift.

But if you can afford it, I would probably give at least a card and some kind of token gift, a bottle of champagne is nice, although perhaps not for the one which is a flight away (unless the couple live there?) as they won't want too much to carry back in luggage. TBH for the ones in the UK I would probably give my 'standard' wedding gift amount which is £50 if just me invited or £100 if me and DH (in cash or vouchers if requested by the couple or otherwise a gift to that value), regardless of the drive/overnight stay as I pretty much expect to stay overnight at any wedding unless very local. The exception would be I guess if the couple have deliberately/thoughtlessly picked a venue a very long way away from where they or their families live just for the sake of it, or a long haul 'destination wedding', in which case I guess I might give a bit less to offset the cost of travel, but my general thinking is that if I like the couple enough to want to attend their wedding then I also want to give them something nice to mark the occasion... but of course don't put yourself into a dire financial position trying to be overgenerous!