So; my brother I’m law is getting married to a girl, who the rest of the family don’t get on with.
They live 4 hours away, and whenever they visit, she’s rude, miserable, she can be in the house for 5 hours and not say a word.
They’ve recently booked their wedding; they are both notorious for poor communication and we have had to nag and nag for details about it.
Eventually brother in law tells us, it’s books for 5 in a county house where they live.
It’s £106 a night, and we need to book a car to drive down, it’s fallen on my hubby to drive, and that’s fine, because I love my parents in law and wouldn’t let them drove that far on their own, and we’ve also go my younger brother in law and his GF with us too; AND aunty and uncle.
We started looking at prices, and then they changed the wedding time to 1pm the NEXT day-that’s too close for us to drive down the morning of the wedding.
SO it’s now cost us £212 to stay 2 nights and £70 per couple to cover the car hire cost to get there.
We just paid it because I guess that’s what you do.
But for my little family of three-me, hubby and our 5 year old-were getting into BIG money.
AND now-they were just with us at the weekend, for the day, again, she didn’t say a word, wouldn’t play with us, even when we went it the park with her 3 kids, she just sat stoney faced.
Neither my husband nor his brother have been asked to be groomsmen or best man or anything- and weeks ago when my mum in law was trying to get info about suits etc we were told ‘oh yeah we’ll be hiring suits we’ll let you know’
Now they’ve said ‘we can’t afford suit hire (£75) so we need to you but this suit (£100)
And we’ll let you know later gets suit to but for your son when we’ve decided.
And I’m livid.
If we buy this, suit we will have spent £388 without even putting fuel in the car to get there.
I looked at food for the evening the night before the wedding and it’s minimum £15 a course.
So for three of us to attend this wedding,
And eat and even just have one drink, in two whole days! It’s going to cost us £433; that’s without the suit that they’re going to add to for my son.
And I just went to cry.
That’s a weeks holiday for my family of three.
And my mum in law agrees, but honestly said ‘just pay and we’ll just get through the day’
the Thing that annoys me the most is that my husband and son already have 2 lovely suits, they’re just not the colour the girl wants.
The thought of spending that money-especially on a day for someone who can’t even speak to me-is really and honestly keeping me awake at night.
Should I just suck it up?! Or should I push back, and just ask why can’t they wear they suits they have? And risk pushing off them and my mother in law, who is just desperate for peace? Help
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Blackjackgum · 01/06/2019 08:49
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