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Title for bride who doesn’t want to be a bride

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TastingTheRainbow · 24/05/2019 10:17

Me and my partner are getting married, both female. We are ordering personalised gowns and slippers for the morning.

The problem we are having is while I am having bride on mine my partner does not want to be a bride. She’s not very feminine and doesn’t feel like bride applies to her. Likewise she doesn’t want groom as she’s obviously not male and doesn’t feel this applies either.

Can anyone think of any other title that might work? I suggested not putting a title and just having her name but she doesn’t want that either.

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BickBock · 24/05/2019 10:19

Spouse? Confused tricky one.

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parietal · 24/05/2019 10:20

names on both?
newly-wed on both?

if you want these as a pair, having the same thing on both would make sense regardless of what it is

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RubberTreePlant · 24/05/2019 10:23

Wife? That's the object of it all, after all.

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TheSpottedZebra · 24/05/2019 10:34

Does she really want the gown, or the personalisatin?

Could you both have Mrs and Mrs ( if you're becoming Mrs)
Or your names /new names if you're changing
Or 'the happy couple'
Or the date
Or a quote

The gown personalised sounds REALLY bridal though. You may need to compromise.

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CMOTDibbler · 24/05/2019 10:42

How about 'Getting Married!'?

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BeyondOverTheMoon · 24/05/2019 10:43

I’d probably go with the date of the wedding or something (a tad twee) like “forever”

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AuntieStella · 24/05/2019 10:46

Any reason why hers could not be plain?

(I'm assuming that as it is for the morning, it's a dressing gown and slippers)

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Sux2buthen · 24/05/2019 10:51

Hers and hers?
Congratulations to you both

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slipperywhensparticus · 24/05/2019 10:53

Always and forever?

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Pascha · 24/05/2019 10:55

Groomswoman?

Not feminine and not male either.

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Ivestoppedreadingthenews · 24/05/2019 10:55

Mrs Bride
Mrs
Wife to be
Wife
Beloved

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Ginkypig · 24/05/2019 11:07

Most of zebra's would work

Newlyweds

Getting married.

Or I quite like simply married.

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MindyStClaire · 24/05/2019 11:17

Groomswoman?

DH had a female attendant and that's what we called her - he had best man, groomsman and groomswoman. I don't think it would work here.

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Pascha · 24/05/2019 12:29

Oh I never thought of it that way. Its not a term I've ever heard used in the UK.

All of the synonyms for bride are either twee, (little woman, helpmate(?!)), or slightly demeaning (better half, trouble and strife, old lady).

So if it was me, I'd be left with possibly 3 options:

  1. Fiancée
  2. Wife-to-be
  3. Bride

    1 is a bit of an affectation unless you both use it.
    2 is clumsy and awkward.
    3 is simple and means what it says.

    Maybe she should reclaim the word Bride from the perception of big dresses and giggly girlyness and just proudly declare that she is one, because its the most simply descriptive unfussy plain English word to describe her.
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TastingTheRainbow · 24/05/2019 12:43

Some good ideas here thanks.

Yes she wants the personalised gown, she’s also having her dad walk her down the aisle, having hair and make up artist etc. She very much wants the bridal experience she just doesn’t want to be labelled a bride which I can’t say I understand but of course it’s her choice so looking into alternatives for her.

I may have both our gowns with Mrs Surname that would work well.

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Loopytiles · 24/05/2019 12:44

That sounds good! Mrs and Mrs.

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Eliza9919 · 05/06/2019 14:53

Groom-ette?

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Parkinssheet · 05/06/2019 16:40

How about "newly-wed" on both. Or honeymooner, which I personally like less. Or marriage partner.
I like Mrs and Mrs though.

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Dec2019mumtobe · 05/06/2019 16:44

Mrs & Mrs on both?

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HollowTalk · 05/06/2019 16:50

Will your share a surname? Whose will you go with?

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spanishwife · 07/06/2019 16:35

I like the 'mrs surname' idea - still weddingy but not just the first name.

I also like the idea of incorporating the date somehow e.g. 'Forever 3.7.19'

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