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Title for bride who doesn’t want to be a bride

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TastingTheRainbow Fri 24-May-19 10:17:27

Me and my partner are getting married, both female. We are ordering personalised gowns and slippers for the morning.

The problem we are having is while I am having bride on mine my partner does not want to be a bride. She’s not very feminine and doesn’t feel like bride applies to her. Likewise she doesn’t want groom as she’s obviously not male and doesn’t feel this applies either.

Can anyone think of any other title that might work? I suggested not putting a title and just having her name but she doesn’t want that either.

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BickBock Fri 24-May-19 10:19:12

Spouse? confused tricky one.

parietal Fri 24-May-19 10:20:40

names on both?
newly-wed on both?

if you want these as a pair, having the same thing on both would make sense regardless of what it is

RubberTreePlant Fri 24-May-19 10:23:12

Wife? That's the object of it all, after all.

TheSpottedZebra Fri 24-May-19 10:34:35

Does she really want the gown, or the personalisatin?

Could you both have Mrs and Mrs ( if you're becoming Mrs)
Or your names /new names if you're changing
Or 'the happy couple'
Or the date
Or a quote

The gown personalised sounds REALLY bridal though. You may need to compromise.

CMOTDibbler Fri 24-May-19 10:42:18

How about 'Getting Married!'?

BeyondOverTheMoon Fri 24-May-19 10:43:23

I’d probably go with the date of the wedding or something (a tad twee) like “forever”

AuntieStella Fri 24-May-19 10:46:53

Any reason why hers could not be plain?

(I'm assuming that as it is for the morning, it's a dressing gown and slippers)

Sux2buthen Fri 24-May-19 10:51:57

Hers and hers?
Congratulations to you both

slipperywhensparticus Fri 24-May-19 10:53:18

Always and forever?

Pascha Fri 24-May-19 10:55:23


Not feminine and not male either.

Ivestoppedreadingthenews Fri 24-May-19 10:55:28

Mrs Bride
Wife to be

Ginkypig Fri 24-May-19 11:07:18

Most of zebra's would work


Getting married.

Or I quite like simply married.

MindyStClaire Fri 24-May-19 11:17:39


DH had a female attendant and that's what we called her - he had best man, groomsman and groomswoman. I don't think it would work here.

Pascha Fri 24-May-19 12:29:38

Oh I never thought of it that way. Its not a term I've ever heard used in the UK.

All of the synonyms for bride are either twee, (little woman, helpmate(?!)), or slightly demeaning (better half, trouble and strife, old lady).

So if it was me, I'd be left with possibly 3 options:
1) Fiancée
2) Wife-to-be
3) Bride

1 is a bit of an affectation unless you both use it.
2 is clumsy and awkward.
3 is simple and means what it says.

Maybe she should reclaim the word Bride from the perception of big dresses and giggly girlyness and just proudly declare that she is one, because its the most simply descriptive unfussy plain English word to describe her.

TastingTheRainbow Fri 24-May-19 12:43:18

Some good ideas here thanks.

Yes she wants the personalised gown, she’s also having her dad walk her down the aisle, having hair and make up artist etc. She very much wants the bridal experience she just doesn’t want to be labelled a bride which I can’t say I understand but of course it’s her choice so looking into alternatives for her.

I may have both our gowns with Mrs Surname that would work well.

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Loopytiles Fri 24-May-19 12:44:44

That sounds good! Mrs and Mrs.

Eliza9919 Wed 05-Jun-19 14:53:12


Parkinssheet Wed 05-Jun-19 16:40:41

How about "newly-wed" on both. Or honeymooner, which I personally like less. Or marriage partner.
I like Mrs and Mrs though.

Dec2019mumtobe Wed 05-Jun-19 16:44:09

Mrs & Mrs on both?

HollowTalk Wed 05-Jun-19 16:50:26

Will your share a surname? Whose will you go with?

spanishwife Fri 07-Jun-19 16:35:44

I like the 'mrs surname' idea - still weddingy but not just the first name.

I also like the idea of incorporating the date somehow e.g. 'Forever 3.7.19'

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