Turning down a wedding invite?

[Mu19899]

Hi, need your advice

A school friend has invited me to her wedding this July. I’m single and she hasn’t given me a plus one. Not a huge deal because there will be other school friends there. Problem is, they are all coupled up and they have already sorted accommodation for the wedding. The wedding is a two hour drive for me (as this particular friend moved away some years ago)

We aren’t really close, I see her about twice a year.

Is it fair for me to reject based on cost?

Weddings + being single = hard :(

[Romanmonkey]

YANBU

[Annandale]

I have friends I consider close who I only see once or twice a year at most. I wouldn't even think about not going to their wedding, if I were free.

Could you ask the hosts (I assume the couple, but maybe their parents if it's traditional) if they know anyone who could put you up for the night?

[Finfintytint]

I'd drive to the wedding and drive home again afterwards.

[Mu19899]

Thanks all.

Annandale: I know what you mean, ‘close’ is hard to define sometimes. Put it this way, we only see each other in a group (don’t think we’ve ever done things just us two, not even back in school, we knocked round in same circle though) twice a year. She’s not somebody I would ever phone for a chat. We speak in our group message and maybe very occasionally I would message her separately. I could ask if someone could put me up I guess

Regarding driving there and back: possible. However I just did look at the map and I miscalculated - it’s nearly a 3 hour drive so worse than I thought!

[Finfintytint]

Just decide whether you really want to go or not and you have 6 months to save up the single room supplement ( or Airbnb may be cheaper). I'm a bit flakey and probably wouldn't go ( I cannot be arsed with putting myself out but that says more about me!).

[minipie]

YANBU but don’t say it’s based on cost. Just say unfortunately you can’t make it.