What have I forgotten?

[MrsWembley]

I'm in the middle of sorting it, MiL (to be) is round for lunch on Sunday and the last time she and I were talking about it, I felt so unprepared!

But she does have that effect on me...

So I want to be prepared. I have a notebook ready and waiting for the list of things I've already thought about and have already done, but I just know that she'll ask about something that I'll have missed. So, have I missed something.

Venue - done, given them timings, etc.
Food - sorted, venue providing specific menu
Cake - friend doing top layer, rest needs ordering from Patisserie Valerie (assuming they don't go bust!)
Dress - on order
Bridesmaids - got, need to sort out dresses
Photographer - being done by a friend - need to discuss actual shots wanted;
Hair - being done by a friend - need to discuss style and price for bridesmaids
Flowers - she said she'd do the tables, but I need to find a florist for the bouquet/buttonholes
Music - I'm putting a playlist together so we can save on a DJ (I hope, this may change...)
Cars - haven't thought about this, but DP mentioned it the other day. I was just going to sort out a taxi Have I mentioned I'm trying to cut costs?

Oh god, this looks far too short a list!

[PatrickMerricksGoshawk]

Makeup
Invitations

Can’t think of anything else off the top of my head. When are you getting married? Congratulations 😊

[Mumshappy]

Anyone to video? Invitations? Are you having favours? Idea of numbers - list of day and night guests. Music for ceremony if getting married at venue. Are you having readings?

[DonaldDucksTowel]

Rings!

[IDontCareRightNow]

Rings? I'm getting married in May so am cross checking my list with yours

[IDontCareRightNow]

Oh and suits?

[Creatureofthenight]

Best man/ushers (prob DP sorting)
Witnesses
Guest list/Seating plan
Favours (if having)
Accommodation and travel for guests - depends very much on where venue is - do you need to block book accommodation, provide info for guests?

[PiningForTheFjords]

I'd advise a video. I didn't record mine and wish I had

[Obsidian77]

Insurance

[MrsWembley]

Wow! Thanks for speedy replies!

What do people think about favours? A friend of mine spent a looong time over favours and I don't know if anyone noticed them

Yes to lists of local hotels. Those who need sorting will be sorted, everyone else is capable of sorting themselves and I'll include details on the invitations

Guest list sorted, but we need to agree on the invitations. DP is involved in that bit, hence the lack of a decision...

Is a video a good idea? Not really considered this.

Witnesses! Hadn't thought of that. Got the registrar booked, but completely forgot about the rest of that bit

[MrsWembley]

Oh, and it's the end of May

[elQuintoConyo]

Packs for out-of-town visitors (map with hotel/venue/car parks, take away numbers).

A pretty box to put monetary gifts in (a friend requested gift vouchers for X place as they wanted to renovate their kitchen, the box was filed with envelopes).

Guestbook to sign, I love reading ours.

Thank you cards for ...thanks!

Have you written your own vows or speech?

Congratulations and I hope you have a marvellous day.

[3boysandabump]

Shoes?

[Aprilshowerswontbelong]

Shoes /bag /compact!!
Underwear!

[GinIsIn]

Transport
Readings
Suits
Shoes
Decorations other than flowers if you want them
Make up
Witnesses
Music for the ceremony

[elQuintoConyo]

We didn't bother with favours.

Of the weddings I have been to there have been:

• set of three candles tied with a ribbon.
• packet of candy cigarettes
• handmade soap full of bits of flowers
• organza bag of sugared almonds
• around 5 weddings with no favours!

Totally, totally useless tbh. The bride (never the groom) obsesses over these and they take up a lot of faff and headspace and they mean nothing.

[SailAwayWithMeHuni]

Your own accommodation for wedding night?
Transport plan, how you’ll both get to and from the venue(s)
Reception entertainment
Dress accessories
Engagement photoshoot
Shoes

[Luzina]

Ive done a wedding website with all info re accommodation etc etc. I used gettingmarried.co.uk

Im getting married in april and am less prepared than you...

[WinterWife]

One thing I almost forgot was gifts for the parents flowers for the mothers as apparently this is traditional and whatever you decide for the fathers.

[Disfordarkchocolate]

We did crackers as favours and put in little poems, magic fish and sweets. Doubled up as place cards. Went down very well but as a rule I don't think favours are needed, something for small children to do is more useful.

[Normandy144]

Don't bother with favours, put the money towards a DJ instead (or band if you can afford it).

[FoxtrotSkarloey]

My mum made our favours (jam) and Dad was on filling jars and tying bows on them. A few got left behind but we got plenty of comments about the nice personal touch. I don't think we would have bothered otherwise as it would have been a waste of money.

We did make quite a last minute off budget decision to get a video and I am so so glad we did. FIL passed away nine months this after our wedding and then my Dad died completely unexpectedly four months after that. We have them both at their best on video forever, as well as everyone else. I love our video.

[MrsWembley]

DP has just told me that under no circumstances will he be videoed!

[MrsWembley]

Arghhhh!!! Flowers and thank-yous for the mothers and bridesmaids! (No fathers to think about.) Completely forgot about that too!!!!!!

DP likes the website idea. Now there's a first...

[Racontuer]

Make sure you have plenty of people to give you a hand the morning and day after with everything. Most people volunteer for beforehand but no one thinks or is around for the day after.

[FoxtrotSkarloey]

I had to battle with DH for the video but the deal was I organised it, I paid for it and he doesn't have to watch it. And he still hasn't.