Just sorting our wedding guest list so that we can send save the dates, and I have a bit of a dilemma.
We don't have any family children, so the only child who really "needs" to be on the list is our flower girl (my bridesmaid's daughter). But I like the idea of having kids there and I'm really looking forward to the prospect of getting everyone together, partners and kids included.
However, our guest list is currently at 107 and we need to get it down to 100 (for the ceremony/meal). We can have 150 for the evening, so there's space for everyone to come later, but it strikes me as a bit pointless to give evening-only invites to any of those who have kids. But the ones without kids are all pretty close friends, and/or people who are travelling from abroad, so we can't really relegate any of them to evening-only either. The only possible option is my fiancé's cousins (a group of 10 including partners, none of whom we know all that well) but he doesn't want to make them evening-only as this same issue caused problems at another family wedding recently.
I guess some of our friends might actually relish the chance to come without their kids and would be happy to have a 'day off' - and I also know that some of them could quite easily arrange childcare as they have grandparents nearby (whereas for some of the others childcare would be impossible or very difficult, given the distance they'd have to travel for the wedding and how far away their families live from them).
So basically, I'm trying to come up with a nice way of asking our friends whether some of them would be able to, or even prefer to, leave the kids at home - but making it clear they're welcome to bring them if they need/want to. I feel we should be open about this as it would be pretty unfair to just blatantly invite some people's kids and not others' (e.g. I wouldn't be happy second-guessing which of our friends would be able to arrange childcare most easily and then just not inviting their kids, only for them to turn up on the day and see other kids had been invited).
I also need to sort this quite quickly as we've only recently got engaged and our wedding is in April!! We want to send out basic save the dates by email pronto so that we can give everyone as much notice as possible.
If anyone can suggest any nice wording (e.g. if we text some of those with kids) or other ideas/past experience I'd be very grateful!
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Nice way to invite some kids (but not all) to wedding
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Justagirll · 04/01/2019 11:39
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