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Banning a family member from the wedding..

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Annie3907 Sat 03-Nov-18 13:03:43

I have yet to discuss this with my DP as he is away working at the moment and not home for a couple of weeks.

Basically DP cousin hates me. He always has. DP cousin also has Aspergers so everyone in the family handles him like a bomb, they are scared to say anything to him which annoys the shit out of me when he is so rude

For months he would constantly post memes on DP Facebook which were aimed at me, DP never took him on and just ignored them because nobody wants to say something to hurt him!! I had a really bad day the other week and saw something he had wrote, so I lost the rag and posted a sarcastic comment back. He then wrote how I am a gold digger (I wish) and a list of vile abuse towards me saying I’m this and that..

I’ve never done anything to this man but because I’m the only person who doesn’t take his shit, he hates me.

I don’t want him at my wedding, he would 100% say something or do something that would ruin the day and also my family and friends have all seen the stuff he writes about me and they don’t like him so there would be a lot of awkwardness.

Also, if I don’t want DP cousin to be at the wedding I will have discuss it with the cousins mum and dad, even though he is an adult they basically still wipe his a**e for him.

I just don’t know how to start this conversation with DP, or his cousins parents. I will look like a bridezilla but I don’t really care at this point

Apologies for the length of the post....

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NerrSnerr Sat 03-Nov-18 13:13:33

It's not a question of banning, just don't invite him. If anyone questions it just say that you only want people who you feel are genuinely happy for you at the wedding.

Annie3907 Sat 03-Nov-18 13:25:51

yeah I think my word “banning” was abit extreme.

I am planning on telling them that people only go to a wedding if they are celebrating the couple, he wouldn’t be celebrating us he would only be there for a piss up. His family will try their best to make sure he’s there but I’m totallt refusing it

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Santaclarita Mon 05-Nov-18 09:11:49

Nah ban him. He's a little shit and deserves it for being rude. Make sure someone keeps an eye out to be sure he doesn't try sneaking in.

HoustonBess Mon 05-Nov-18 09:20:43

Just don't invite him. But if you're inviting his parents and siblings you should probably explain your choice.

Redken24 Mon 05-Nov-18 09:22:24

What is there to explain. Don't invite and if anyone asks why then become bridezila 😂

DontCallMeCharlotte Mon 05-Nov-18 09:48:07

Time for DH to step up. Could he get his parents to have a word with their relevant sibling (i.e. the cousin's parent)? And, if they get the arse don't invite them either!

Seriously though, if they do start kicking off, show them his horrible Facebook stuff and stand firm.

Santaisgettingbusy Mon 05-Nov-18 09:51:37

My mil was under the bizarre notion she was invited to our wedding.
Quick visit from dh set her straight.
Just do not put his name on an invite.

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