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Thinking of not doing favours....?

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kocerhan3 Sat 16-Jun-18 14:35:22

So many people have commented to me how "pointless" and "unnecessary" favours are at weddings - yet I feel like we'd still be judged for not doing any?! Would people care if we didn't? Would they notice? I don't want to spend loads of money on them for no reason. So therefore:

Can I get away with not doing favours at all?
If I have to, what's cheap/cheerful and will be appreciated/taken/eaten?

Thanks in advance!

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Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar Sat 16-Jun-18 14:36:46

Of course you won’t be judged, nobody will even notice.
They are indeed pointless.

Blondielongie Sat 16-Jun-18 14:37:56

Ooh watching.

Sorry no help. We made my own but they are too bad to give to people. I could say our son made them 😂 no money to buy more now!

OrianaBanana Sat 16-Jun-18 14:40:01

We didn’t do any. Sometimes you just get a chocolate or something, which you eat and forget about. Or sugared almonds that no one eats. Nobody cares!

BigFatBloomers Sat 16-Jun-18 14:41:20

I think you can definitely get away without favours. We did and no one felt they’d been hard done by.
I’ve been to lots of weddings and the favours are honestly not the thing I remember about them.

BigFatBloomers Sat 16-Jun-18 14:42:29

One of our friends had big bowls of retro sweets on the tables. They were much more exciting than packets of seeds, small frames, etc.
They kept us v happy while the speeches were going on.

elf1985 Sat 16-Jun-18 14:44:07

We got personalised sweet bags from eBay and then filled coffee jars with sweets and put them on the tables. Cost next to nothing.

kocerhan3 Sat 16-Jun-18 14:44:58

Glad to hear these replies!!! I like the retro sweets idea, that's a good talking point for people to reminisce over a little too!

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Bridechilla Sat 16-Jun-18 14:46:29

We're not! Can't see the point. The only one I've liked is a Tunnocks tea cake but they've got no relevance to us or our day so seem a bit pointless

LeeshaPaper Sat 16-Jun-18 14:48:26

We didn't. Nobody mentioned it. Can't remember if there were favours at the last wedding we went to... They're a waste of money

Stephisaur Sat 16-Jun-18 14:51:33

Nobody will mind either way. We did personalised love hearts (got a deal at the wedding show so it was like 200 mini packs for £40) and some gingerbread in a little chest.

No relevance to our day, but kept the kids quiet ;)

Stellarbella Sat 16-Jun-18 14:51:52

I personally think that favours are tacky. We didn’t do any, no one raised an eyebrow.

IWouldLikeToKnow Sat 16-Jun-18 14:53:37

Personally I feel favours a bit pointless and a waste of money. If you You can donate to a charity in lieu of favours if this is something you sinus's be interested in. Some charities will give you place cards to say that you have done this so all your guests will know.

TroubledLichen Sat 16-Jun-18 14:56:23

I didn’t do any. Honestly can’t tell you whether the last weddings I went to had them either. Personally I think they’re pointless and a waste of money. Spend the money on a extra drink for your guests instead, the vast majority would prefer that compared to some personalised sweets.

Grasslands Sat 16-Jun-18 14:57:17

Favours are a symbolic thank you for having attended the celebration. I’d be slightly insulted and would think poorly of the organizers.

Pretamum Sat 16-Jun-18 15:06:48

I think favours are a nice touch, but completely unnecessary. I can barely remember the favours I've received at weddings. You are already buying everyone drinks and dinner during the day, if you don't want to also spend money on favours then don't. Your guests probably won't even notice. We're marrying next year and will be donating the money we would have spent on favours to a local charity instead.

70isaLimitNotaTarget Sat 16-Jun-18 15:07:46

I thought the sugared almonds was supposed to be significant of the number of DC you wish to have following the wedding?

I would go for a huge glass bowl (Ikea does loads) filled with those sweeties from the £ shop (Swizzles, Wham chews, lollies, LoveHearts type)
Retro sweets sound good but they are ££

AmazingPostVoices Sat 16-Jun-18 15:12:57

No one will notice if you don’t have them(or care if they do)

However I was at a wedding where they had a bowl of Lovehearts on each table (ordinary ones not personalised)and I thought it was lovely.

happymummy12345 Sat 16-Jun-18 15:16:38

We didn't do them. To me it feels like why would you need to give everyone a present to say thanks for coming to your wedding? Surely people would come because they want to share the day with you.
I mean you wouldn't give everyone a thank you present for coming to a birthday party would you?

freshstart24 Sat 16-Jun-18 15:16:47

They are indeed pointless. I would only judge as far as to think you were being sensible.

It always makes me sad to se they number of favours left behind at weddings.....

MollyHuaCha Sat 16-Jun-18 15:25:09

I think favours are sweet. They needn't cost a lot, they can be prepared weeks in advance and they help to personalize a wedding if it's held at a public place (hotel etc.).

If you don't have the time, money or inclination to include them, then it doesn't matter either.

Allthebubbles Sat 16-Jun-18 15:31:08

We didn't do them either. I think we gave key people flower arrangements to take home at the end.

Figmentofimagination Sat 16-Jun-18 15:33:40

I didn't have individual favours put on the tables for all our guests. However we did a sweetie buffet (as my DH has a massive sweet tooth) with loads of stripped paper bags for people to fill with sweets. I bought I load of bowls for cheap at wilko and bulk bought tubs of haribo. People are loads of sweets during the evening party and then took bags of sweets home for themselves/ DC.

FusionChefGeoff Sat 16-Jun-18 15:39:17

We made quirky place cards so people could have them as favours to take home if they wanted to.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar Sat 16-Jun-18 15:58:32

Why on earth would so many of you put bowls of kids sweets on the table to share? confused
It’s a wedding reception, not a 5 year old’s party.

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