Haven't arranged anything yet but every now and then I think about someone that had me at their wedding and feel panic/guilt. Because I just want something very small and intimate and to not be the "star of the show/centre of attention". Ideally I'd like to run off and do it with a couple of random witnesses (heard about a colleague who did just that today) but realistically I think we'll end up having a small ceremony and lunch with family and small group of friends.
Anyway, in the last few weeks I've been in social settings with people who invited me to their weddings. Two of these women are my best friend's sister and a mutual friend of ours. Both are now married with kids. We're FB friends but aside from get togethers with my best friend and her family I rarely see them nowadays. I also recently met up with another friend whose reception I attended (she got married abroad). Of course she was asking when we are getting married. All of these people had sizeable traditional weddings. I don't personally know anyone who just had a tiny ceremony and no fuss afterwards.
Is it really bad that I just want it really small. And even if I invited these people (whom I see very infrequently) then I would have to invite their husbands and kids as well? Can you imagine if I sent them an invitation (or a text/FB message lol) saying "You're invited to Krampus' wedding!" with no mention of husband and kids being invited too? I don't think that would go down well at all. It's not just my hatred for being the centre of attention either, we really don't have lots of money to splash out on feeding/entertaining a large group.
Would you be really offended if you were invited to your best friend's wedding but your partner and kids weren't?
Also my friends are all in small groups. It's not like one big group of friends who all hang out. Sure they know of each other mostly but they're not used to being in each others company. It would feel a bit awkward I think. And that's just my friends, there's DP's family and friends to think of too (they live overseas). Ugh even organising something tiny is stressful and I've not even started yet!
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Who to invite to a small wedding ceremony?
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MissKrampus · 13/02/2018 22:24
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