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When to start chasing Rsvps?

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Purplepeonies · 03/06/2017 12:18

We have set our date for Rsvps as Sunday 4th June. Was just wondering what the etiquette was with regards to chasing people up who haven't got back to us yet?

Should we wait a week or so? A few days? (I should add that the method for rsvping was online or via the phone so no need to account for postage times)

I hate to feel like I'm pestering people but we obviously need the numbers.
Thanks

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PurpleDaisies · 03/06/2017 12:18

When's the wedding?

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mummabubs · 03/06/2017 12:23

Depends on when wedding is OP and when you've been told you need to have final numbers by the venue. (I'd also at least a fortnight from this to chase any really late replies- we even had a couple that never replied and one large family party who rsvp'd only to say they couldn't come less than a week before!) x

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Purplepeonies · 03/06/2017 12:25

The wedding is the second week in July. Technically final numbers aren't needed by the venue until 2 weeks before. However I did send the invites 6 weeks ago.

Should I wait a week or so?

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PurpleDaisies · 03/06/2017 12:35

If it's July you're fine to chase now. People are useless at replying.

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Purplepeonies · 03/06/2017 12:38

OK thank you!! I hate to feel like I'm being pushy but I think it is just a case of people forgetting. Thanks x

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halcyondays · 03/06/2017 12:47

I'd chase now

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SheepyFun · 03/06/2017 13:38

I'd give them two days, and start chasing on Tuesday. I also remember the joy of trying to pin people down. I think we could change our numbers up to 10% either way with the venue until a couple of days before, which really helped.

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meditrina · 03/06/2017 13:47

Yes, I think chasing at 6 weeks beforehand is fine, as they've already had 6 weeks. And people should know by now if they want to come and are able to do so.

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