I have been friends with a girl for about 5 years as part of a mutual hobby.
She and her partner were invited to my wedding about 20 months ago and they attended/enjoyed it. Following this, we were still good friends and they invited us to their engagement party 12 months ago. We brought champagne and I'm not even sure I got a thank you for that (it was labelled with a card).
Post her e-party, since my wedding was abroad in the same country as hers, I helped out with ideas and engaged in general chit chat about weddings and also our plans for our future families.
However, suddenly she stopped accepting my invites to brunch etc, and she was impossible to catch up with. I'd see photos of her on facebook at dinner parties she'd thrown for our usual "group"- excluding me. This hurt a bit as every event I miss, I become further from everyone else, not just her.
It became clear after meeting up with one of our mutual friends (after the bride friend had pulled out last minute!) that the bride had sent out wedding invites and I wasn't included. And at a Xmas party for our mutual hobby, she couldn't get away from me fast enough, obviously feeling awkward about my lack of invite.
Of course, I felt slightly hurt to be left out, but having had my own wedding, I understand the costs involved and that not everyone can be invited. So I accepted that fact.
Fast forward a couple of months and I get an invite to a "wedding celebration" for after her wedding, back near where we both live. Drinks at a pub- she would provide some prosecco and some nibbles.
Along with it was a message asking for no gifts but with a handy gift registry, with a little poem of course, with items mostly around the £50-100 range, but a few at £30 and a few into the multiple hundreds.
I can see the guest list and it's basically their original wedding party plus a handful of us rejects.
My husband is disgusted and won't attend - that's fine. I feel quite hurt about her dropping our friendship more than the lack of proper invite. But then this follow up party invite plus gift list appeared and it just makes me mad.
Would I be silly to attend just to show that I'm a bigger person? And if I do attend, do I bring a gift of wine (that they don't want), nothing, or something from their list?
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Moose23 · 26/05/2017 18:27
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