Hi,
Bit of important info- Been together almost 5 years. Both feminine, me more so, so two dresses. I have a 10 year old DD from a previous relationship. Small family on my side, which I'm very close to. Dp has an estranged mum and an almost estranged brother :( Her dad and step mum and their dcs (dps half siblings) live in France, but should make it over. Having said that, I quite like the idea of a French wedding We have a few other family members we'd like to invite, but we don't really have many friends. There are reasons for that! I like to think of it as circumstantial, rather than there's anything wrong with us
Anyway, with all that in mind, we'd like a small wedding, ideally in a beautiful venue, castle type, or gorgeous hotel with a bit of character. Good food and wine is important to us too, as are the dresses. I would love something elegant, with a bit of sexy. Ideally nipped in at the waist corseted to the point I can't breathe I am a size 10, very long dark hair, with green eyes and pale skin- For those of you who want to do a bit of dress hunting for me Dp is a bit more alternative, but would still like something with some shape. Any links, advice or recommendations on those fronts, would be much appreciated. We have a couple of dilemmas though...
- Does dp invite her mum, even knowing there's a possibility she won't behave herself? Same with her brother.
- Do we even acknowledge it's a lesbian wedding? Ie, have a rainbow layer to our cake? Some sort of LGBT nod? Or is this a bit.....unnecessary or tacky even? I know it's subjective, but still, would appreciate your thoughts.
- Do we both walk down the aisle? Together? Separately? Do we walk down the aisle at all?!
- Speeches- Do both father of the Brides give a speech? Or do we go off grid completely and not even do traditional speeches? My dad would be relieved, that's for sure He hated giving a speech at my sister's wedding, bless him. He was so nervous.
- First dance. Dp does not dance. She loves music, but she more drunkenly sways, than dances She would do it though I think, but then what kind of dance? I don't like the idea of a slow dance tbh. Does there need to be a first dance at all? I want to dance, definitely, but not necessarily put on some kind of performance...if that makes sense.
Not sure on budget yet, but it won't be huge. Oh and we live in Cambridgeshire, but it doesn't really need to be round here tbf.
So any input would be greatly appreciated Apologies if I've waffled. It's highly likely.
TIA