Advanced search

Sick of seeing wedding dresses worn my skinny minnies :(

(14 Posts)
neepsntattoos Thu 16-Feb-17 01:07:59

I think I'm a 14. I'd rather not be but hey ho that's life. I've been looking at dresses online as where I live we don't have great shops. And I'm so sick of being like - oh that's gorgeous- and then I realise it's on a size 6 model. Any realistic places online I can see dresses? Total newbie to this, thank you

KayTee87 Thu 16-Feb-17 09:43:25

Sorry you feel like this and as long as you get a dress that suits your shape you will look great. Models tend to be slim as clothes do look better /more appealing in smaller sizes.
I suggest not looking online and actually make some appointments at wedding dress shops, if the assistant knows what they're doing they can guide you.
A tip that was given to me and I now give to anyone else - if they stand you up on a high stage like thing in the dress, stand down from it, wear a pair of heels with a heel height you're comfortable with and tuck the dress under to you're actual height.
I'm only 5"4 and of course looked fab at 6" in dresses, when I was my actual height not so much 😂
Doesn't apply if you are actually 6" obvs

TheAugury Thu 16-Feb-17 09:47:03

I agree and even more most wedding dresses often look better on curvier girls it astounds me how many wedding fairs and shops have skinny models who don't even fill the dresses. I'm a curvy 12 and my wedding dress looked awful on the model in the pictures. I'm not saying some styles don't look better on a size 6 or 8 but definitely not all or even most of them.

HairsprayBabe Thu 16-Feb-17 09:49:54


I worked in bridal wear for a long time and my suggestion to you would be don't look at any dresses, come up with a general idea of what you want, vintage style, big skirt, fishtail, sleeves etc. whatever and then go to an independant bridal shop.

Give the sales assistant an idea of what you are looking for and they should be able to pull out some things for you to try. There is very little point in looking at pictures of other women in wedding dresses as it won't be you, and it won't feel like your dress.

The little platform they stand you on is to help the dress fall more naturally, as they are cut long for taller women as it is easy to take of the bottom of a skirt rather than add in extra inches!

If you are in the midlands I can give you some really good recommendations for shops! Good luck!

Bluntness100 Thu 16-Feb-17 09:50:04

Is this not the same for all clothes though? The fact it's wedding dresses is irrelevant, it's simply the same old discussion on what size models should retailers use. Predominatly they are slim to skinny, be they selling jeans , bikinis or wedding dresses.

Yes some retailers use "larger" models. But that's not the norm.

HairsprayBabe Thu 16-Feb-17 09:52:55

Oh! and try to find a shop that does alterations in house as it streamlines the process and you can get a good idea of what you can change about the dress if needs be before you buy it.

PurpleDaisies Thu 16-Feb-17 09:55:14

Skinny Minnies? I don't think it's ok to insult women for being thin any more than it would be ok for someone to come on and complain that wedding dresses were all being modelled by Fatty Hatties. hmm

Even dresses worn by someone the same size as you can look completely different on. I'd just use the magazines for ideas about which styles you like and then try lots on.

KayTee87 Thu 16-Feb-17 09:56:00

The little platform they stand you on is to help the dress fall more naturally, as they are cut long for taller women as it is easy to take of the bottom of a skirt rather than add in extra inches!

It's great to see the whole length of the dress but when you see yourself at your actual height it can make the dress look entirely different.

neepsntattoos Thu 16-Feb-17 10:06:27

Seriously I'm not insulting anyone - if anyone with a smaller frame is insulted by the term 'skinny' I apologise! My friends a size 6 and calls herself skinny! Can't say anything on here without being it being picked apart!
Thanks guys, I was a bridesmaid a few years ago and went to the shop with the bride, and it's true, when she tried something on you knew what it was 'really' like. I was hoping to do it budget stylee though, so online. Prices online just don't compare to in the store which is a shame, maybe I'll go in and look at styles though, a girl can look! grin

KayTee87 Thu 16-Feb-17 10:07:30

Defo go in and actually try styles on then at least you know what you're looking for online. Best of luck!

lb364 Thu 16-Feb-17 12:09:38

It's not all about your dress size with wedding dresses but more about where your curves are, you'll be surprised by how flattering many of them are once you try them on grin

The best places I found for seeing what dresses looked like on 'real' (non-airbrushed) women were online wedding forums - lots of women asking for opinions on them in their dress. And Sophia Tolli's Facebook page also has an album of real brides that have worn their dresses.

Moanyoldcow Sun 05-Mar-17 23:03:20

Try the Alfred Angelo styles. Lots of lovely dresses for under £1000. I'm a size 22 and my dress from them was stunning and I felt fantastic in it.

JonesyAndTheSalad Sun 05-Mar-17 23:04:56

Which bits of you are your best bits OP? For example, my waist is my best bit but my hips are a bit big in my opinion so I wear a dress to accentuate my waist...if you've got a nice waist, then look at a 1950s cut dress with a nipped in waist.

Graphista Sun 05-Mar-17 23:18:25

Hairspraybabe is spot on.

I too used to sell wedding dresses.

If you go to an actual shop tell them about your body likes/dislikes and what your wedding is going to be like they KNOW their stock and which designs accentuate/disguise certain areas of the body.

Certain styles look better on a fuller figure than a slim one (and of course also vice versa) it's also about body and face shape, skin tone (few people can actually wear pure white eg). It's almost impossible to tell without trying them on.

Several times I had brides struggling to find 'their' dress and was able to suggest a dress they had dismissed initially only for them to fall in love with it. I think it's largely because we don't wear that type of dress regularly so of course don't know what suits us.

I LOVED that job.

DEFINITELY only have a specialist seamstress do the alterations - in house are usually the best both for convenience AND because again they're familiar with the dresses in stock so will have worked on that style before. Also because the fabrics involved are delicate and easily ruined.

We had several panicked brides who'd gone to high street alteration places (type of place who normally replace zips/sort hems on school uniforms) where dresses were all but ruined and our seamstress rescued them. (The dresses AND the brides!).

You'll also be amazed at how much an experienced bridal seamstress can personalise a dress.

Good luck and have a wonderful day.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: