Friend of 7 years. We were best friends for a few years but eventually drifted. Always stayed in contact but not as close as we once were. We tend to go through phases of seeing more of each other, which is fine it's how things just are with us.
Realistically though, she's always been a shit friend. A SHIT friend. She use to cancel on me - albeit from when we were 16 - with some illness but be out with other friends. She still cancels to this day. She has absolutely no other friends except me, as she is an explosive, and in some senses completely deluded. She has this vicious, nasty side to her and can explode on you at any point for bizarre, unfair reasons.
I have however always been her friend. I've had more arguments with my parents, DP, sisters and the other bridesmaids over the years about how she is a toxic person and a terrible friend. But I've always remained her friend.
Me and DP got engaged in August. I got the expected 'my best friend is getting married!' post, a few occasional photos of bridesmaid dress ideas send to me and that's it. We had a late engagement party on the 18th Nov and she left after 10 mins, and as far as I am aware went out with a work friend. She didn't speak to me again until tonight, when I text her asking if she was receiving the bridesmaid group chat messages. (I knew she was. She had been active on Facebook) she's told me she's 'been busy and will catch up now xxxx'
I know that's bull crap, as above she had been active on Facebook!
I would really like to sack her as bridesmaids but she is such a manipulative, explosive person I know all it will do is end up me coming out the terrible person and as usual, she doing no wrong. I have absolutely no idea how to handle this situation and I'm completely out my depth. What is the best way to deal with this to avoid any drama/arguments/explosions or is it inevitable?!
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AIBU to sack her as bridesmaid?
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holygold13 · 24/11/2016 20:44
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