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Guest, faux pas?

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purplefizz26 Wed 05-Oct-16 11:34:23

My cousin is getting married next month and I am a guest for the ceremony, breakfast and reception.

I bought a dress to wear, it is floor length and described as a bridesmaid dress but is absolutely nothing like her chosen bridesmaid dresses and is a completely different colour. (Her colour scheme is red and my dress is lavender).

Another cousin who is also attending has apparently turned her nose up a bit when my aunt chatted to her about dresses and described mine. She supposedly sneered and said "well she isn't a bridesmaid so why has she bought that".

Returning it isn't an option as I have had it altered and it is way past 28 days return anyway. And besides I love the dress and would wear it again to similar events.

I guess I never thought much of the 'bridesmaid' description because it isn't the actual bridesmaid dress for the wedding!

Have I made a faux pas?

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SpidersFromMars Wed 05-Oct-16 11:57:54

I think we need to see the dress. Do you have a link?

purplefizz26 Wed 05-Oct-16 12:04:24

I don't know how to do links but I have attached a photo.

Her bridesmaid ones are red strapless.


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FemaleDilbert Wed 05-Oct-16 12:06:58

I think that's absolutely fine. Ignore the cousin

MumOfTwoMasterOfNone Wed 05-Oct-16 12:07:30

There's absolutely nothing wrong with what you have bought. Have a lovely time at the wedding and don't worry about small minded trouble causes.

MumOfTwoMasterOfNone Wed 05-Oct-16 12:07:52


VimFuego101 Wed 05-Oct-16 12:08:29

Unless that's actually the same color as the bridesmaids are wearing I can't see why that dress would be a problem.

CocoLoco87 Wed 05-Oct-16 12:08:34

Lovely dress and I dont actually think it's that bridesmaidy! I can't see the problem smile

stiffstink Wed 05-Oct-16 12:10:12

As long as you don't intend to carry a bouquet and follow the bride you'll be fine! Its a lovely dress for a guest. I'm not aware of a rule saying a guest can't wear gorgeous maxi length purpley dresses.

purplefizz26 Wed 05-Oct-16 12:10:20

Thanks guys that has made me feel tons better!
My post baby body is still a work in progress, it wasn't easy to find a dress I felt nice in so it made me feel a bit shit!

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mimiasovitch Wed 05-Oct-16 12:10:40

I certainly wouldn't look at that and think bridesmaid. I think lots of sites market their frocks as bridesmaid nowadays, as fewer people choose the satin monstrosities that were prevalent in the not too distant past. If you do a search under bridesmaid dresses, most look like cocktail dresses. It's a lovely dress and I'm sure you'll look fab.

purplefizz26 Wed 05-Oct-16 12:11:47

Thanks guys that has made me feel tons better!
My post baby body is still a work in progress, it wasn't easy to find a dress I felt nice in so it made me feel a bit shit!

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Assamassa Wed 05-Oct-16 12:12:34

That's stunning it looks dressy but not bridesmaidy to me. Wear it & rock it smile

blueskyinmarch Wed 05-Oct-16 12:13:10

That is a lovely dress and would only be a bridesmaid dress if that was actually what her bridesmaids were wearing! If they are wearing red strapless then you are fine with your dress.

purplefizz26 Wed 05-Oct-16 12:13:56

Ha ha imagine the cousins face if I arrived with a bouquet grin

TBH I think she has a chip on her shoulder because she was the only cousin asked to be bridesmaid but never mind!! It isn't the first pop she has had at people.

Thanks again.

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knaffedoff Wed 05-Oct-16 12:14:16

The dress is lovely, I would add that I had a guest wear a bridesmaid dress at my wedding. I didn't give it a second thought, however she was treated as a bridesmaid by the owners of my venue and they would often refer to her about decisions on the day. This annoyed her massively😞

pictish Wed 05-Oct-16 12:16:01

Ignore cousin wear the dress. It's fine.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Wed 05-Oct-16 12:16:08

It's lovely and not brides maidy at all!

purplefizz26 Wed 05-Oct-16 12:17:46

With red being a bold colour it should be clear who the bridesmaids are so hopefully nobody will be pestering me about table arrangements etc grin

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loobylou10 Wed 05-Oct-16 12:22:12

Its totally fine - lovely for a wedding guest. Have a great day

SpidersFromMars Wed 05-Oct-16 12:48:13

I wouldn't look at that and say "bridesmaid" unless there were 3 of you wearing the same one. It's a lovely dress, and perfect for a wedding guest.

LucyLot Thu 06-Oct-16 15:31:21

Love that dress if a guest wore it to my wedding I would think they looked lovely. I like wearing floor length dresses to weddings.

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