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XXMum2BeXX Fri 23-Sep-16 20:43:32

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BackforGood Sat 24-Sep-16 00:44:25

There's been a thread running this week asking if people would go to a wedding on 27th Dec or prefer NYE - a lot of quite cool responses. Many people have family traditions / are already trying to balance time between parents and in-laws and a day or two just relaxing. Travel can be a nightmare. It tends to already be an expensive time of year for folk. It's not usually a popular option for guests. That said, on the other thread there were a small number of replies who said it would be lovely.

Valentines Day doesn't usually bother most people, although you'll find florists will be run off their feet at that time. Other possible downside is Feb is almost always a bad weather month, so I suppose it depends how many folk are having to travel. However, generally from a guests pov, Feb would suit more I think. Venues would probably be cheaper too.
Of course, if you are the type to celebrate your anniversaries, then all the restaurants will always be packed and flowers will be extortionate.

XXMum2BeXX Sat 24-Sep-16 03:48:19

Thank you BackforGoodsmile.

FluffyFluffster Sat 24-Sep-16 03:52:57

My cousin had a New Year's Day wedding which was inconvenient as it was right in the middle of my break so I couldn't get a good break out of town. In saying this, I would never have missed it and had a great time.

Personally, I think Valentines Day is a bit naff but an easy date to remember for anniversaries. Christmas would be a massive imposition on people since it's such a 'family' day (not that your wedding isn't).

Could you do Boxing Day? Or the 27th? A friend of mine had a winter wedding and it was lovely!!

JeVoudrais Sat 24-Sep-16 15:53:41

I'd be more inclined to go to a Valentines one. Something to brighten up February etc. Christmas I would struggle with, and New Year, my DP would have to work Xmas to get off, which isn't great. Not so bad if all your friends and family get the break off though.

mya83 Sat 24-Sep-16 16:08:43

It depends whether you want a smaller intimate do or a massive whole family and friends affair I think. Xmas is going to be difficult for most people to attend as people usually have their own plans, plus it will be hard for people financially after all the Xmas spending, to then factor in a wedding present, new outfit plus travel and accommodation. But if you just wanted a small do with a handful of close family then it could work.

If you're hoping for a bigger do with lots of guests you're probably better going for valentines.

WhiskersAndPaws Mon 26-Sep-16 20:27:46

I would prefer Christmas if I were the bride as its festive and seasonal, better weather than gloomy February and you'll have loads of natural atmosphere.

However I bet most guests would prefer to go to a wedding in February than at Christmas time. It's expensive as it is, people are usually at their busiest with family and friends etc so it would probably be inconvenient. My MIL has turned down a wedding for those reasons this year.

JedRambosteen Mon 26-Sep-16 20:34:24

A Christmas wedding would hack me off - it is such a busy time of year trying to fit all our family commitments in. December is also an awfully expensive month for guests to be magicking up money for hotels, outfits, babysitters (£££ in party season) and wedding gifts too. If you have your wedding then, accept that for some of your guests it isn't going to be a priority or even affordable, so don't huff if people decline invites.

rhiaaaaaaaannon Mon 26-Sep-16 20:36:03

As a guest I'd prefer to be invited to a valentines day wedding instead of Christmas.

Ilovenannyplum Mon 26-Sep-16 20:41:11

I'm getting married on 28 December, everyone we've invited is coming.
We picked that date because DP proposed to me on Christmas Day and a December mid week wedding was thousands cheaper than a Saturday in August
(Yes I know you can just go to a registry office and only spend a fiver but we both wanted a wedding day wink)

Pineapplemilkshake Fri 30-Sep-16 17:03:28

Valentine's - without a doubt. Christmas weddings are a PITA for so many people - I never go to them as I only get a couple of days off and wouldn't want to waste it by having to attend a wedding. I realise that makes me sounds a little bah humbug but I reckon many people feel the same!

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