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How much to give as wedding present??

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365isalot Mon 25-Jul-16 22:57:31

My cousin is getting married, we are fond of each other but not that close- meet about once a year, Christmas usually. He's mid30s, got a decent job, nice flat , im 40s, 3 kids, decent job. They've asked for money as a present, instead of gifts because there's nothing they really need for the house. Fair enough- but how much to give? £100 seems a bit mean. Does it? But £200 seems like a lot. Or does it? They're having a fairly big wedding, 150 people, and we are travelling there, staying 2 nights inhotel, us & 3 kids, that's costing about £300. Or is that not relevant? What do you think?

strongandlong Mon 25-Jul-16 23:00:40

£100 sounds like loads! How much would you have spent on a gift?

Floggingmolly Mon 25-Jul-16 23:02:24

Why does £100 sound mean?

wobblywonderwoman Mon 25-Jul-16 23:03:20

I think 150

365isalot Mon 25-Jul-16 23:05:05

Oh great thanks! I tried to work out what i'd spend on a gift but don't know what it would be smile So you don't think £100 sounds mean? Is £100 too much??

Floggingmolly Mon 25-Jul-16 23:06:37

It's not too much, but it's not mean either did they include a poem??

365isalot Mon 25-Jul-16 23:08:09

£150? I dont think i would buy a present that cost that much though. With hotel, drinks, meals, petrol, outfits for the kids, this wedding is costing as much as a holiday already...sad

Makemineacabsauv Mon 25-Jul-16 23:09:33

Where I live £100 is standard of going all day to a wedding and £50 if only going to the evening do. So I'd say £100 is fine.

bananapeanut Mon 25-Jul-16 23:09:43

I'm going to a wedding on Friday and giving £25! But I have zero income because I'm a student so to be honest that's loads for me confused I say just give what is fair and appropriate for your own circumstances

JakeBallardswife Mon 25-Jul-16 23:10:57

If give £50 and would think they'd be chuffed with that.

Makemineacabsauv Mon 25-Jul-16 23:10:59

Unless guests are skint, single or coming from a long way away that's the usual per couple I should say.

365isalot Mon 25-Jul-16 23:15:24

Thanks everyone!

WoahSlowDown Mon 25-Jul-16 23:23:10

I think £100 is ok but I'd give more. I know it's hated on Mumsnet but I'd feel bad giving a lot less than the bride and groom would have spent on my meal and drinks. If I was going to a bring your own booze barn dance type wedding is give less than if it was at a fancy venue.

Not many posters like this plan though

365isalot Tue 26-Jul-16 07:18:54

But, Woah, if they had a traditional wedding list that you chose a gift from, I would select a cheaper gift, simply because we are putting so much money in just to attend- & that seems fairer to me. Most of the other guests live locally (and have no children) so it's not such an expense for them. That's where the old fashioned wedding list was a lot better than this business of giving cash!

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