Apologies in advance for long post.
A couple of years of FIL-to-be left MiL, following the cheater's script verbatim. MiL is now happily in a relationship with a nice man she met online, FiL is with OW in a volatile on and off way. SIL does not speak to her father in protest at his relationship with OW - she told him she thought she was a gold digger (FIL is loaded) and he kicked off, called her a load of nasty names and refuses to acknowledge her. DP does speak to his father mainly as he is too nice for his own good and we have a 9 week old DD and we want her to have a relationship with her granddad. We have met OW once but DP has made it clear he doesn't like her. FIL keeps saying it is unfair we accept MIL's new partner but not OW - he refuses to accept the situations are very different.
On to the wedding and my reason for posting. DP met up with his dad today and he announced he would give us £7,000 towards it. Only on the condition that OW is invited. If she isn't, then not only will he not give us the money, he will not attend either. DP is heartbroken that his dad would choose OW over coming to his so son's wedding but feels like if we did invite OW the day would be ruined as MiL and all her family would rightly be upset. I have said I am happy to refuse the money.
I just can't believe someone could be like this about his sons wedding! Do you think refusing the money and not inviting OW is the right thing to do?
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BeetlebumShesAGun · 17/02/2014 02:07
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