I'm having an invite wording wobble.

[whattoWHO]

This will be my second marriagfey. DP and I have been together for 8 years. We have a DD and our own home. So we honestly don't need or want gifts.
On the gift information card I've out 'in lieu of a gift, we would be thrilled if you would consider making a donation to the charity of your choice'.
Before I get them printed, does that sound OK? Or does it imply we'd sort of like gifts but don't want to come across as greedy?
Am I over thinking this?

[ShatnersBassoon]

Perhaps just 'pleased' instead of 'thrilled' which sounds a bit OTT to me. I'm a bit grumpy though, it takes a lot to truly thrill me.

Alternatively, don't make any suggestion for what they should do with their money. If they ask, tell them there really is no need.

[Corygal]

You can simply put 'No presents' or 'Please don't bring a present' on the invitation.

[overmydeadbody]

I would just say "no presents please", otherwise people might feel they have to donate to charity for you.

If you get individual people hassling you, then ask them to donate some money to a charity of their/or your choice.

[JessieMcJessie]

Also, in lieu of sounds a bit poncey- what's wring with instead of or rather than?

[flowery]

Why do you need a "gift information card" if you don't want gifts? Surely just put a request for no presents on the actual invitation?

[WibbleDribble]

Bit late to join this but we have used 'Your presence rather than presents is requested'

[StopSquabbling]

Just put, 'No presents, please'

We got invited to a 2nd wedding and the invite said something like 'No gifts, money or vouchers - thank you'.

Very refreshing, I thought.

[Colyflower]

Most people will still want to buy you a gift even if you say you don't want any. So maybe say something along the lines of "We've been together for a while and have everything we need but if you would like to give us a gift, a donation to our favourite charity xxxx would mean a great deal to us." ?

This is pretty much what we had in our invites, I spent weeks agonising over the wording, low and behold the day of the wedding arrived and we still got picture frames, albums and tea towels etc. the majority did donate though.

We also personally donated to our charity on behalf of our guests as our wedding favours.

[Colyflower]

I did also mentioned that they shouldn't feel obliged to donate.

We just didn't want people to waste money on things we didn't need. By giving them an alternative, like donating, you please everyone, we'll most people anyway, you'll never please them all.

The worst part of our wedding invite was telling people that children weren't allowed, that was hard! Not because we don't like them, our friends and family combined had about 30 children between them all ha ha!