plus 1 issues

[nearlyreadytopop]

this is a sort if is ds being unreasonable question.
ds1 is in the process of divorcing her dh (should be finalised by the end of 2013).
ds2 is getting married june 2014. ds2 has a tightly set number of guests. when she found out dsis1 was getting divorced she removed ex brother in law from guest list and added someone else in.
dsis1 is now livid as she won't be given a plus 1. We are both bridesmaids and I'm stuck in the middle.
I can understand that dsis 1 might want to bring a mate but I think she will use the occasion to parade a new bf causing some family scandal and taking the focus of ds2. I know its ten months to go but I just know its going to explode into a massive row.
families are a pain sometimes.

[nearlyreadytopop]

ds is actually meant to be dsis

[CaptainSweatPants]

Sister 2 is right

She wants one of her friends to come instead presumably not some randomer she's never met

[AuntieStella]

How widely are other +1s being invited?

If it's restricted to established partners, then I think she IBU as presumably the new 'name' is a new acquisition.

But June next year is a long way ahead, and there's surely no need to finalise a guest list now? Perhaps there's a tactful way of deferring all this is bit?

[nearlyreadytopop]

sister 2 has a rule that there will only be people her and future husband know at the wedding. this started to stop future mil from inviting a lot of randomers they meet on holiday 5 yrs ago and kept in touch with

[nearlyreadytopop]

sisters have no tact when it comes to each other unfortunately.

[amandine07]

Your sister getting married is not being unreasonable at all- the other sis shouldn't have just presumed she'd get a plus 1.
This is pretty common I think, especially among siblings.
I don't blame the B&G for just wanting people that they both actually know, weddings can get eye-wateringly expensive- as I am learning!