This isn't a major issue (yet) but I want to handle this in the right way and would prefer it if I didn't offend anyone in the process.
Myself and DP are getting married next year. We have both always wanted a small wedding so we worked out a rough guest list for numbers and booked our venue for 70 people max.
The problem is that DP has suddenly added more people. When I questioned him it turned out that these are not people he wanted there in the first place.
A couple of examples;
Three of his mother's friends, he doesn't know them at all. I do as I meet up with her regularly with our DS. She is great, as are her friends but they were not on the list as they are not our friends and we want a small personal wedding.
Turns out future mil has asked DP if they are invited, and he has said "I don't see why not". I now think the three friends have been told they can come.
I know this is DP's fault and not mil's as she wouldn't have been offended at all if he'd said no and she wouldn't have pushed the matter either.
The best man's mother, father and sister!? Again, the best man has asked DP if they are invited and he said yes. But he had not put them on the list. He has known them for years and I would not have a problem with this if he wanted them there and we could have included them in the plans for numbers. But he is actually considering taking some of his uni friends off so they can come, which I know is not what he wants!!
We discussed people like this (like bridesmaid's family who I have known for years) and decided that we had to draw the line somewhere and we really want a small wedding.
We then tried to sit down together and go through the list, he is now saying that I have far more people than him (true as my family is bigger than his) and they are his guests so its some of mine that we have to cut off the list.
I don't think this is fair as he could have had all the people who are important to him and we could have booked somewhere that would fit them all in. Also, I don't want to cut off people who mean a lot to me so that people we don't know as well can come.
It seems too late to add them on now, but as they have been told they are coming we have to invite them don't we?
We have 93 people on the list now.
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SmileAndPeopleSmileWithYou · 23/08/2013 12:31
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