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feel sad im not being given away by the right person.

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Crawling Sun 28-Apr-13 06:57:05

My mum had mental health isssues and while my dad was a user of speed he tried very hard to make sure I saw very little. He was always there for me and sometimes It felt like It was just him and me.
.When I was 15 he had amphetamine pychosis and ended up hurting my mum physically and I had to step in.

After that he refused to see me as I was better off without him and he didnt want to hurt me again. I feel he earned the right to walk me down the aisle he sounds like a abusive drug user but he was a good dad and was always there when I needed him and he Did take care of me.

But he wont be coming to the wedding. Sorry for depressing post in such a happy topic but I had to tell someone How I feel.

dogsandcats Sun 28-Apr-13 07:33:01

Are you saying you have asked him and he has said no?

Crawling Sun 28-Apr-13 07:52:49

He left no means for me to contact him when he left. I dont even know If he is alive.

dogsandcats Sun 28-Apr-13 08:25:24

When is your wedding ?smile

Crawling Sun 28-Apr-13 08:27:14

July 5th this year.

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 28-Apr-13 08:30:44

So who is walking you down the aisle?

My dad isn't coming to my wedding either. My mum is walking in with me.

dogsandcats Sun 28-Apr-13 08:35:26

I would suggest trying to track him down.
But this may take a long time. Or not?
I suppose it would be up to you as to whether that is a good idea so close to your wedding date?

Crawling Sun 28-Apr-13 09:07:27

My uncle who is more like a brother is walking me down the aisle I think im just gonna accept things as they are and consider whether to track down after the wedding.

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 28-Apr-13 09:13:08

This is probably really obvious but have you tried looking for him on Facebook? You still have time to find him if that is what you want.

dogsandcats Sun 28-Apr-13 09:13:54

I think that is probably a good idea.
I should imagine that finding someone again after a number of years is going to be emotional for several people.

Glad you are going to have your uncle there on you wedding day.
Hope you will still have a lovely day. And if you choose and are able to find your dad, he will be able to see some lovely photos.

dogsandcats Sun 28-Apr-13 09:14:58

My reply was to Crawling's post.

Crawling Sun 28-Apr-13 09:19:40

I am fb friends but he doesnt go on there ever.

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 28-Apr-13 09:35:39

But if you messaged him on FB he might get an email notification.

Crawling Sun 28-Apr-13 09:38:21

Ill think about It Thanks all.

littleflowerlady Sun 28-Apr-13 11:55:49

Poor you.

My Dad was diagnosed with cancer three months before our wedding. He was very poorly. I found out the day before he wouldn't be able to make it to the wedding. sad

Can you do an extensive Google search? I'm amazed what I've found when I've tried to find people online. It's a bit scary actually!

ginauk84 Tue 30-Apr-13 13:34:36

My dad died 10 years ago and I am upset he never walked me down the aisle last year. If you don't try and contact him you might regret it? So do think about it .

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