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tt7488 Sat 16-Feb-13 18:14:20

I'm getting married in August and my son will be almost 2. I'd like my mum and mother in law to enjoy the day and not have to leave early to take him home to bed but I think it won't really be necessary to have a nanny all day. We are having it in a marquee at my grandparents house and the place my son would actually be sleeping would be about a 5 or 10 min drive away. Is he a bit young to stay up for a bit, fall asleep and then be carted home by a babysitter? Does anyone have any advice on what to do about getting a nanny or babysitter on wedding day?

Couldnt you put him in a travel cot in your gps house of he gets too tired? Whos house is he sleeping in? Could he not then go home with them?

I know it would be very late and moving him asleep etc, but its just one day. I have done similar at family parties with DD1 at that age and she was fine.

droitwichmummy Sat 16-Feb-13 18:21:18

We just put PILs in charge of DS for the day and he came to the wedding too. The vicar blessed us as a family at the end of the wedding service.

Bue Sat 16-Feb-13 19:03:47

Why can't he just sleep in your grandparents' house until everyone leaves?

OddBoots Sat 16-Feb-13 23:11:10

Who lives in the place he will be spending the night? I'd second/third the travel cot at your grandparents' house.

tt7488 Mon 18-Feb-13 11:48:00

We are having the marquee quite far upfield so a monitor won't stretch that far. No one will be in the house as everything being done in the marquees. My grandparents also have terrible mould in their house and my son has really bad asthma that gets really aggravated when he has slept there in the past.

He will obviously be at the wedding! I was talking about the reception. It will be going on very late and I don't want anyone to have to leave early in order to take him home to bed.

I have been thinking about asking my childminder if she would come and look after him but it is all the way in Somerset (we live in London) so might be quite pricey since we would need her to stay overnight, pay for her train, accomodation etc. Then again I don't really know that many people in the area and not sure about babysitters.

I could maybe have my mum take him home to a babysitter put him to bed etc and then come back to the wedding? Seems a bit unfair on her though.

MsIngaFewmarbles Mon 18-Feb-13 11:53:08

You could just do whay my sister is doing. Insist that your sister (who has 4 under 10) has your 4yo and 4mo overnight meaning that she will have to leave the wedding early and rake her dds, your bridesmaids with her hmm Sorry very ranty about it.

You could (more sensibly) hire a night nanny from an agency either for at the hotel or your home. Agency nannys are usually vetted and have at least 2 references. Pricey but worth it.

LIZS Mon 18-Feb-13 12:02:20

If it is 6 months away can you not ensure there is a mould-free room for him to nap in and hire a babysitter or have him in a tent nearby ? I'd be aware that if he gets overtired he may to want to be taken away by strangers, so maybe enlist help of relatives , any teenage nieces or children of family friends perhaps who could befriend him all day ?

tt7488 Mon 18-Feb-13 12:12:18

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LIZS Mon 18-Feb-13 12:37:59

If she is going to get so drunk then is she really the right person to look after your ds at all ?

tt7488 Mon 18-Feb-13 12:41:43

I meant that quite jovially sorry realise now how that came across! She is not some kind of crazy alcoholic! I imagine everyone will be quite drunk.

There are lots of people staying in the house where my son will be staying so it will be fine. It is the transporting back that I am worried about,

PhyllisDoris Mon 18-Feb-13 12:44:25

To be honnest, I'd probably just let him fall asleep at the party, and then lay him down on a couple of chairs or cushions and cover him with a blanket. You can carry him home then to wherever he will be sleeping the night - chances are he won't even wake up.
It's only one night after all.

tt7488 Mon 18-Feb-13 14:07:23

He is a horrific sleeper and that would never happen now. But can I be hopeful that that will change by August? That is what I would like to do ideally also so that he can be part of the party for as long as he can manage.

PandaNot Mon 18-Feb-13 14:17:59

I too would just leave him at the party. My two would have just found somewhere to sleep, it's not like you're going to make a habit of it.

badtemperedaldbitch Mon 18-Feb-13 14:25:23

i'm a cm and one of the children i look after is in this position. I've agreed, that when the lo has had enough, call me and i'll come and get her.

pookamoo Mon 18-Feb-13 14:31:59

bring his buggy and a nice blanket, and his teddy, and a bottle of milk (or whatever he has) and get someone to take him for a little walk when he gets too tired. He can nodd off in the buggy and be parked up in a corner somewhere. smile

HappyAsASandboy Mon 18-Feb-13 14:49:40

We attended a wedding in the summer, when our twins were nearly 2.

We took buggies, night time teddies etc. when they got tired, we took them for a walk in the buggies, then parked them in a dark room, off the main room. Checked on them every 5 mins. They were fine.

I would do the same in your marquee. Park him in a dark corner. They're not normally worried about noise when they get that tired.

Then your mum can push him back to her accommodation in the buggy?

biglips Thu 21-Feb-13 19:56:26

same advice as HappyAsASandboy as if you can, bring his buggy, blanket and nightime milk bottle (if he still have it). As kids would sleep through anything if they are that tired grin.

I'll be doing the same with my ds when he will be 11m old on my wedding day grin

TheBeanAndTheBee Sat 02-Mar-13 08:36:00

Bit late to this but I would really really recommend spending the money on a nanny. Our DDs were 1 and 2 when we got married (she arrived late afternoon) and I'm so glad we did it. It meant that all the adults could totally relax and enjoy themselves. In fact the one thing I regret is not having her arrive in the morning so that we could all relax and get ready. Honestly I would have rather not had a cake and flowers and had a nanny for 24 hours instead.

RatPants Sat 02-Mar-13 08:41:39

We are having an event nanny for our wedding this summer. We have two boys and Mil (well mil to be!) will keep them overnight the night before and then bring them to the wedding the next day so that we can have a good nights' sleep and get ready ourselves and then the event nanny will arrive in time for meals and speeches to help the nine or so attending children with their food (ivory dress here grin) and do games and activities with them until the evening do starts. We have asked a nursery nurse from their day nursery to help out in the evening, will be putting them to bed upstairs in our hotel room and having this lady babysit them until the end of the party.

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