I can't help i'm afraid, but i'll watch with interest as my DS who's 24 months is exactly the same! We have No2 arriving in December, so i'm hoping my little monster will have improved by then. To be honest i think it's mostly my fault as i've done it too much for him, just to make sure he eats.
Woooooo hoooooooooooooo - he did it! Over the weekend, I asked if he wanted to hold the spoon and hey presto, he did! Not so keen on putting it in the food as he doesn't get much on the spoon, so we have agreed on a compromise where I load the spoon, he feeds himself. Not for the whole meal, but a great start and a load off my mind to be honest!
We just put cutlery around DS's plate and ignored him if he ate with his fingers. Gradually (from 18 months) he started to show an interest but is lazy and will dump the spoon and whine if he thinks we'll feed him.
To stop this we just fill the spoon and put it back on the plate so that he has to pick it up and put it in his mouth.
At 22 monts, he has days where he wants to eat everything with a fork and days where we have to remind him constantly.
I pick my battles so have been known to serve pasta on a warm day to him in just his nappy, let him eat it how he liked, and dump him in the bath afterwards before nap time..
ds is 2.2 and can't really use a spoon very well. he has been doing yoghurt and sticky stuff like porridge since about june (when he turned 2) but peas and cereal are a nightmare. he can use a fork well if i load it up for him but mostly he still uses his fingers.