Hi all, (sorry it's so long!)
I'm sat in carpark after ibbroke down in front of my baby and husband (and two other kids!). In the grand scheme of life I know things could and are worse for some but I think it's built up frustration and I've just lost it.
My son, DC3, is 13 months old. Out of all of my children I was so much more focussed for weaning and although had two good eating children I felt that I very quickly got into a rut of only offering what I knew they'd eat so I wanted to make sure I consistently gave him a varied diet. Then I started weaning him!! I was planning on a variety baby led and puréed food.
He was about 6 months. He refused all finger food. Would just wipe it onto the floor. Fine. So he was ok at purée food ate the initial single or two mixed veg or fruit. Once a thicker mashed food was offered things got a bit trickier and he was spit out a lump and then clamp his mouth shut and eat no more. He would still not eat finger food so I continued with purée but was conscious at 10 months he needed to get used to texture so frustrating tried to offer but more than not it was refused. I was cooking stuff for him seperately the other two so was feeling very fed up and felt I was just pouring food in the bin. He would eat porridge or weatabix so at that point he was only having one good meal. He has also never been a big milk drinker so would only be having half of his bottles too.
Finally at 11 months he started finger food which went well in that he would eat toast, sandwiches and basically anything dry!! Any fruit, vegetables or even cooked food like spag Bol he wouldn't touch let alone eat. He has never eaten any whole fruit. I have no idea why. I did think it was just odd to touch so I've tried messy play with various textures to hold but no help so far.
So by then I had nailed toast for breakfast or crumpets and he started to refuse porridge etc so that I'd hit and miss still now.
He will eat sandwiches, pizza, pastry - very high carb!!! So lunch is kind of sorted although no fruit, cucumber, even grapes!! etc etc
He will still not eat any cooked food - I've tried just meat and veg which my older two prefer, I've tried pureeing still and all refused. He has never had a whole vegetable (I.e not puréed).
I'm beyond frustrated and I'm so tired of it all. I've bought in pouches and jars on the hope that by not having slaved away cooking it would be less stressful for me so I'd chill out but I'm so tense.
I think the icing on the cake was he eats most things they offer at nursery!! Apparently "lapped" up his Thai curry last week (spoon fed) and even sent me pictures.
I've given him a spoon to try himself but no better.
I'm so worried he is going to get food issues as I get that tense I want to force it into his mouth.
We try and eat as a family and he certainly always "eats" with his siblings.
He still wakes for milk in the night starving.
He has milk at 7am, breakfast at 8/8.30, lunch at 12, milk at 2.30, dinner 4.30/5, bedtime milk 6.30. And then once at night.
He now mostly always finishes his milk.
We tried dropping his afternoon milk thinking he'd be starving and would eat but just made our nights even worse.
We try not to offer snacks. Particularly the afternoon.
Any help would be appreciated and I'm so sorry for the epic post! Oh and the HV said "well I have children who only eat crisps so it could be worse, just keep trying??!??"
It does feel good to get it out though
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CupcakesRule · 25/09/2016 17:53
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