Cold turkey from breast to bottle - anyone been through it?(15 Posts)
DD is 8.5 months, and I'm overdue to go back to work. Have spent the last 6 weeks trying to introduce bottles and sippy cups with no success whatsoever - she screams at the sight of a bottle and only teethes on the cups. Tried loads of brands to no avail. We didn't introduce a regular bottle early - naively thought that because she used to take the odd one when I went out it would be fine. Not any more - point blank refusal of all bottles, whether EBM or formula. She will take her formula (Neocate LCP as she's allergic to dairy) in food and via a spoon but not as a drink.
We are getting nowhere and I'm increasingly stressed about it as time passes. Lots of friends are advising us to go the cold turkey route and put up with a couple of days of yelling after which she'll eventually cave and take a bottle, so they say.
I've got reservations, but softly-softly isn't working and I'm ready to stop breastfeeding, as well as having to for work. But really worried about how to go about it.
Will abruptly stopping be grim for me? (Don't think I can express with a screaming hungry baby in the house so forget that - if we do it, it's all in.) I'd hoped to drop one feed at a time but that relies on her taking a bottle so not really an option.
Are we crazy to consider it while she's also at a clingy age? Will withdrawing the boob now be awful for separation anxiety?
Do we have to stop giving solids too in order that she's hungry enough to take the bottle? Will she get dehydrated?
Would really appreciate advice from those who've been through it and come out the other side.
Also any recommendations on bottles? Have been using Avent ones with the 'natural' teats but suspect we may need a more free flowing option now
I went back to work at 6 months leaving ebf bottle refusing non sleeping DS with a childminder.
By the end of day 1 he'd napped like a charm and happily had bottles. In my opinion babies are little buggers for mum and often quite well behaved elsewhere.
My boobs were like melons though and I had to hand express a little in the loos for the first few days.
I know you say you are ready to stop breastfeeding , but going back to work shouldn't make it an urgency - mine coped fine with food and water when I wasn't there, and fed when I was. Made my supply a bit up and down but babies are remarkably resilient like that.
Anyway, you could gradually wean her taking advantage if your absence through work to make it a bit more gentle on both of you? Neocate tastes rank anyway so I don't blame her! (2 dairy allergic babies here....)
She's going to be with a childminder 2 days a week but I feel like I ought to have got her on bottles before attempting a full day. The poor woman is in for a LOT of screaming as it stands. I know it's ridiculous to feel like I have to present the childminder with a perfectly placid baby somehow, but I don't want to leave DD knowing she's going to be hungry and pissed off all day, which won't help with settling in. Argh...
And yeah Neocate is minging! Luckily she loves bread so a few bits soaked in the formula were enough to get her started and she seems to quite like it now. I need to find a bottle that looks like a piece of toast and she'd be right in there...
Seriously I wouldn't try for bottles or worry about formula for just 2 days - as long as she will eat food and drink water then she will create a lot less for the childminder than you think. She may well take bottles from the childminder and never take them from you.... Or is that just my stubborn pickles?
I could have saved myself a whole lot of angst trying to get mine to take a bottle from me if I knew they would be just fine when I wasn't there.
In fact I gave up trying to get them on a bottle as they never took one from me. Anyone else if I wasn't there, yes. Me or if I was there - a big fat NO!
It's also about having my life back, being freer to accept offers of babysitting, etc. I'll miss nursing but have to stop sometime and I'm so ready to be free of the ugly bras and breast pump
Also DH is having minor surgery in Feb so life will be complicated and bottle feeding would allow me to share then load with other family. In an ideal world I'd do a bit of both but it doesn't seem like DD is going to go with that plan.
Hi, I was in the same situation as you with my DD, she refused every type of bottle & milk from me or anyone else.
She was eating well & so once weaned from me just had whatever amount of formula she felt like from a beaker with a valve or one of those free flowing beakers with a fold down spout. Other than that she had water & I made sure she had plenty if yogurt etc to top up on calcium. No I'll effects for either of us, although I think I was down to just 2 feeds (morning &evening) when I stopped bf.
*ill nit I'll!
Also, as soon as she was 1 she had multivitamin syrup every day to make sure she wasn't missing out on anything.
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