I've really messed up weaning with my 11 month olds

[WantToMoveNorth]

I'm feeling sick to the stomach over what I've done. Sorry, this is a bit long...

I have 11 mo DTs and I think I've set up
poor eating habits.

They both refuse fruit & veg as finger food- even sweet strawberries! My older DD lived off fruit at this age! They are often constipated, so for most puddings they have puréed pears, prunes & dates mixed with plain yoghurt- I'm worried this has given them too much of a sweet tooth. They also have diluted apple juice for their drinks- because they are constipated I'm always trying to get more liquid down them, but now they won't drink water!

One of them will only eat puréed food- I still blend all their food with a stick blender. It's not totally smooth, but for example she won't eat a 10 month + pouch as that's too lumpy. My most troublesome DT often has periods where she refuses food totally, the last time she didn't eat for a whole month & I've only just got her eating normally since last Sunday, so I'm always a bit scared to put her off too much.

I tried BLW with them but they won't eat anything of substance. For finger food they'll happily eat breadsticks, organix carrot stick crisps, sweetcorn, Cheerios & raisins. But everything else gets thrown on the floor.

I don't know how to change them- have I left it too late? If they don't eat enough in the day, they just wake in the night for milk instead, so I feel like I'm in a hole that I can't get out of! I'm also worried they won't develop their speech muscles properly (as they're not chewing enough). My older DD has a speech delay, so I don't want to create one for them too

Does anyone have any advice? Thanks

[SillyBlueHat]

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[DefiniteMaybe]

Could you maybe go back to basics with them? Up their
daytime bottles, give them some of your meals at your mealtimes, preferably after milk so they're not hungry.
If you want them to drink water not juice, only give them water, they will drink it eventually. By 11 months my dc were practicing with open cups at mealtimes. That might be a good incentive to try the water.

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Please try not to worry too much.
Firstly speak to your health visitor they will have lots of advice. I'm doing exactly the same as you (fruit puree into yogurt) on advice of the Hv so I wouldn't worry too much about that.
They are eating some finger foods so that's reassuring i would give them maybe 1 finger good they like but put something else on the tray that's different every single time but that's just something I do with dd so she gets used to picking up and looking at new foods even if it doesn't go in her mouth.
Speak to your Hv though- good luck

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Meant to add juice wise- could you maybe dilute it slightly everytime until eventually it's just water?