Any suggestions for games for a boy gamer in Y9 (PS4) ?

Our 13 year old has black ops 4 on the strict condition that he has the gore and swearing turned off (there is a setting for this). I was VERY anti, but dh talked me into it as a former gamer himself and tbh it’s no worse than fortnite, just a bit more realistic.
The trouble is we’ve opened a can of worms now because he sees no reason why he shouldn’t have red dead redemption for Christmas and I don’t feel good about that at all.

Honestly, B04 isn't really gory at all and while yes there is swearing what medium that doesn't have that.

Honestly, there should be no issue with a kid trying to get into mature games as long as they can show they can handle mature themes there is no reason not to let them have it.

get hin RDR2 black ops 4 and Grand Theft Auto 5 (or 6 if out)

My 14 year old has red dead 2. I've sat with him and it doesn't seem so bad.

It's just a game.

My boys played Black OPs under age as do many of their classmates. When the chat is streaming through the TV I often here primary school children playing too. Personally I'm not bothered by my boys playing it when they are secondary school aged. They aren't violent in real life and don't have consoles in their room so aren't staying up until silly o clock and affecting their studies. The sound of them talking on headsets is annoying but unfortunately unavoidable these days.

Dp plays Red Dead, it's mostly horse riding from what I can see.

To add to that, ds (Y11) describes it as a 'dad game'

Ds says that Bloodborne (rated 16) is the best game ever.