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Advice Needed - Online Gaming?

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ElMarshy · 12/06/2017 11:07

Hi all
I have a 9yo little boy who up to now has been able to play online (Xbox) and connect with school friends. He has been playing things like Minecraft and Roblox. There is another one that I can't remember the name of.

My concern comes with the online element whereby some of the other children have been really unkind to him, kicking him out of the game and saying things like 'you don't deserve any friends'. I would be less worried if my son didn't take it personally but he has always been quite a sensitive boy so I worry about how this will affect him.

In my mind, I want to stop all online play so that we can cut this channel of, what I call, mild bullying off. He could carry on playing non-online games. My husband, however, thinks that he should carry on because it will teach him how to cope with it and how to behave online. I am worried that he won't cope and it could get him down. You ear such awful stories about boys that don't cope.

What do you all think I should do? Thank you for your help.
ElMarshy

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theknackster · 12/06/2017 11:17

DS2's friendship group is a bit like this. DS2 seems to cope ok with it unless he's been playing for too long...when I hear the complaints I know it's time for the PS4 to go off and for him to do something else.

If it's anything like DS2's lot, then the same sort of dynamic goes on in the playground, so I guess there's pluses (a safe haven from the nonsense) and minuses (more opportunities to develop coping strategies) about stopping the online play.

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chickendrizzlecake · 12/06/2017 19:24

Do you know the parents and can you talk to them? We had this with DS in Roblox and when I showed the mums some of the mean things their kids had said online they were horrified. They lost screen time and were not allowed to play the game again for some time until they could prove they could do it without insults.

Your son should not have to lose his privileges if he has done nothing wrong, but this kind of 'mild' bullying as you put it could develop into something really nasty if not nipped in the bud. Please take action against the perpetrators.

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user1499106327 · 03/07/2017 20:22

I almost lost my daughter who had established a relationship with another girl so called from the online gaming site called MovieStarPlanet. The sites are not secure at all. I am an IT professional and I can tell you any IT security professional would have this gaming sites shutdown due to how inherently insecure they are. They would not allow corporate data to be presented on these sites so how come we all allow our children to be on these sites !
Harmless conversations by text message and WhatsApp are not harmless, beware ! If MovieStarPlanet want to approach me you are welcome, but note I have absolutely no respect for you or your business.

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