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Summer money for 7yo niece and her mum?

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sjm4g15 Fri 19-Jul-19 18:29:27

My ExSIL does the majority of childcare during summer as she is a teacher and brother works regular 9-5 hours (has DN 50-50 majority of the year), DN is 2.6, I have just got my bonus from work and have some spare to spend on my niece - I was thinking about getting a restaurant or cinema voucher for enough that they could go out a few times over the summer. Or maybe spend on a specific garden toy? If you were in that position and a relative had £60 to £100 towards summer activities to give you, what would be the most useful/least patronising way?! Or should I just give cash to her or to my bro?! Thanks

sjm4g15 Fri 19-Jul-19 18:31:23

Sorry should say 6 not 2.6 - @MNHQ could you edit please?!

SmartPlay Fri 19-Jul-19 18:33:04

This is a lovely thing to do? Are you in contact with the mother? If yes, can't you just tell her that you got a bonus and want to treat your niece to something nice and ask her for suggestions?

CrackOn Fri 19-Jul-19 18:34:16

Offer to take your neice out for the day and spend it then. Makes a lovely memory- my aunt did this with me a few times growing up.

Bookworm4 Fri 19-Jul-19 18:37:47

Something fun for garden, will be used plenty

sjm4g15 Fri 19-Jul-19 18:39:23

Not really in contact with SIL unfortunately as I normally see DN through my DB! I do talk to her very occasionally but she is quite reserved and in a NMW job and I would really worry that she would be much more receptive to a voucher or gift than me just saying "oh I have £100 to spend on the kids" IYKWIM? So would prefer to just give a gift than saying I have X amount.

Also sorry for age confusion - my DS is 2.6 so it corrected as I talk about him in messages so much! DN is 6 to turn 7 at end of July

sjm4g15 Fri 19-Jul-19 18:46:51

I could maybe offer to take her out for a few hours, that's a good suggestion, thanks! I live a few hours away but could manage that a couple of times over the holidays

Mothership4two Fri 19-Jul-19 18:49:13

Agree with @CrackOn, taking her out somewhere special together would be a lovely idea and would give your SIL a break. If you do get garden toy, I would check with SIL that she's happy first - our ds's have been given outdoor stuff over the years that can just sit, cluttering up the garden and then be given away or taken to dump!

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